Child stress

[Dkp1984]

While I type this I feel it might be picky and thinking too negative towards my son's mother...but I am struggling......when my son is at his mums I believe he doesn't get enough sleep or have a proper bedtime, resulting in him feeling ill in the mornings, letting him spend time on his computer from getting in the house till past midnight, not having a proper diet. I think my question is how can I guide him to be the best he can be with only spending a week on week off with him? I feel I get somewhere, and then he goes to his mother's for a week and spends his time being a tired zombie

Not sure there is much you can do whilst he’s as his mum I’m afraid - how old is he?

How old is your child? That would help with giving you advice.

It’s clear you really care about your son, and it’s understandable to feel frustrated when routines differ between homes. Sleep, diet, and screen time do affect kids a lot, and it makes sense you’re seeing that during your time with him. Focusing on what you can control during your week, like consistent bedtimes and healthier habits, can still make a positive impact. You might also try gently talking with him about how he feels when he’s rested versus tired, without blaming his mum.
You're doing your best, and that matters, even if it doesn’t feel like it sometimes. You're not alone.