Hi all,
I'll try keep this brief but it's still a long read, not sure if this is the best section for this.
I'm worried about my baby boy, he is 3 months and 17 days old.
I do understand there are a lot of changes that happen around three months. He was a happy newborn, but around the late two to three months he has drastically changed.
And I'm worried it's more of a neurological or mental illness, early warning signs.
I'm wondering if anyone has had experience of this, and has maybe even older kids now diagnosed that showed signs as a baby.
For extra context I am epileptic and have a lot of family history on both sides, of many different neurological and mental illness. I also got very bad sepsis late in pregnancy; had a burst appendix and got sent home being told its pregency pains. And landed up back in hospital with my baby in distress. Was then given antibiotics nessary but unsafe for babies for two weeks in hospital. So that could have effected things. I then had an early emergency c section later on after the appendix. He was breech at the time, and there was a problem with him breathing when first born. He was taken away, and I only got to see my baby later. So those are factors that could maybe have caused something.
He has had bad reflux that began after a month I think, the Dr's are treating it. And it definitely improved he no longer projectile vomits. Other then that the Dr believes he is fine. But I don't feel like he is, and I'm going tomorrow for a third opinion now.
His moro reflex has become way more extreme, I've needed to put things by the changing mat for him to hold onto. Everything startles him worse.
He has become so sensitive to sensory input, sounds, light etc he can scream being outdoors, and relax in a dim room. I tried a baby group and he cried the whole time, I gave up after two sessions as it made him even more unhappy.
He won't sleep in a parm or car ride anymore, when we have gone out he will fight sleep for hours, eyes going blood shot he cannot be soothed to sleep. Only in a dark or dim room swaying and walking with him, and that can be a process.
Other days however he will oversleep, and trying to wake him to engage with him, has only resulted in him being awake and screaming, that full time before I can sooth him back to sleep again. I can't put him down or it makes it worse, I have to hold him.
He doesn't like his gym anymore, he cries if put into it. Before he cried if he didn't go in. He needs a single toy, and a simple space now. He stopped babbling, where's he used to babble nonstop (I understand that can be a developmental pause). He still can't hold his head up, and struggles in tummy time, they short sessions, which he can only tolerate on the chest and ball.
And my baby has become extremely sad a lot of the time. He will wake up screaming, cry and scream worse then getting a vaccine. He can cry so badly at times he can hardly breath. He can't be soothed easily, and can take ages to sooth and I've tried everything google could suggest.
And yes he is fed, cleaned, comfy, I have a Thermometer to check temperature accurately, there is no hair tangled around his toes, or rash, Etc etc etc. I honestly got to the point of changing the colours in the room, changing music, white noise sound, sang different songs, even decided maybe he didn't like Paddington stories anymore. I've got to the point where yesterday I was standing on one leg in hopes it would help, then realising that's just ridiculous.
Does anyone have any advise? Gone though something similar? Have suggestions of anything else it can be?
I'm a first time mom, and I'm heartbroken for my baby, I just want to make him smile more, I want to make his life better.
Thanks so much.