My 10 year old DD has been going through extreme mood swings for a year now. Ranging from misery to anger at the slightest thing.
If anything does not go her way it's the end of the world. It's exhausting.
She woke up today and before I'm even awake has come in shouting at me because the shirt she is going to wear for World Book Day is too small (it isn't and is actually 2 sizes bigger than the one she intended to wear originally). Cue meltdown and breaking down of the things she made to go with her outfit.
She gets extremely jealous and angry with her older sister for no apparent reason to the point where my eldest is now getting really upset about it.
She definitely has OCD tendencies and will melt down if her room isn't 100% perfect. I have spoken with school about it and asked for support but nothing useful has happened she sees the SEN co-ordinator occasionally but doesn't make any difference and all they tell me is her room is important to her - yes I know! She had been telling them how upset she was because her Dad hadn't spray painted some shelves for her and it was stressing her. Her Dad had explained the weather was too cold to spray paint and he would do it as soon as he could, which he did. He also works a 15+ hour day most of the time. School basically told me we weren't listening to her needs and she was upset about this.
I have to make her bed exactly the right way whilst she's out or she comes home and melts down that her whole room is a mess when it isn't.
I got a referral to a clinical psychologist and we have just started that.
However I feel like I'm treading on eggshells the whole time. I work a stressful job with ill parents as well. My DD has everything she wants and I don't understand where all this comes from and quite honestly I'm at breaking point with it. The slightest thing can set her off.
She never used to be like this and there isn't anything I can pin on causing a change other than a particularly nasty teacher last year who made her on edge but obviously we have been out of that class a good few months now.
As far as I'm aware she is NT. I do wonder if ADHD could be a factor with the obsessive behaviour but it's really more a sadness and anger.
I wonder if it's hormones. Then also think is this just the start? What will she be like by the time she's 13? I just don't know what to do anymore.
Sometimes when being nice and sympathetic she throws it straight back at you and won't listen to anything anyway. Then I think what's the point in even talking about it if it makes her worse. Advice welcome.