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Children seeing their dad

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Bboo3 · 27/02/2025 17:36

My husband walked out on me and my children for another woman in September. Since then the children *7,4,3 have been seeing him every other Saturday snd every Friday tea. They don't want to go anymore. And they are very against sleeping out. The past few weeks my 4 year old have refused to go and most days my 7 yesr old has cried to come back. She has been very heart at school, saying she never wants to see him, she wished he'd stop disturbing us etc. My 4 year old has also been having accidents at school on the Fridays she should be going to see him. My 3 year old boy is very clingy and if he does go it's for 30 mins and he's screaming for me so is brought back.
This can't go on can it? I'm fearful for their mental health. They want me to tell him they're not going anymore. But I feel if I do he'll take it to court. We have tried speaking to them. They even write in their diaries how they don't want a daddy. Or they want a new diary. I'm scared for their mental health.

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JacqFrost · 27/02/2025 17:52

Need to get to the reason why they don't want to see their Dad first.

Snorlaxo · 27/02/2025 17:55

Does he live close enough to see them for a few hours?

Cantgetausername87 · 27/02/2025 17:58

I think it's something to discuss with their dad too. I think they're far too young to be making decisions like this themselves and it's important for them to have that relationship.
It may just be the change and being away from you but you kinda need to work as a team to sort it so they see their dad and have a good relationship with them. Once decided when they go they need to stay there in order to settle x

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