DS says DH ‘hates him’

[Ladybugface16]

Quite often recently my DS (11) has said he feels his DH hates him, or ‘doesn’t even talk to me, or ‘how do I know he loves me?’. There is conflict in the house atm. Son has possible ASD, struggles with reading social situations and has very strong emotions. I don’t know what to do to support either side.

There is conflict in the house atm.

THAT is what you can do to support both. Work on and ultimately get rid of ridiculous tension and pettiness that serve no purpose in a family.

Is your dh particularly undemonstrative or ‘cold’? Does he ever hug your ds, or do things with him - football matches, cinema, playing with him at home?

Not really, he’s invited to football but DS chooses not to go and DH takes him to hobbies. They some times enjoy shopping together. DH is quick to shout, DS needs telling things several times, can be dishonest (eg hiding food consoles in bed room) and they clash. DH is not very demonstrative but has his moments and reads with him/encourages his interests fairly often.