DS ‘achy tummy’ WWYD?

[Veryoldandtired]

So my DS7 has been complaining about his tummy all last week. It was their nativity play today so he was really out of sorts, he was crying over nothing and having full blown emotional meltdown. After the play has finished he was in good spirits but remembered that tomorrow he needed to turn in a poem with 4 paragraphs. It’s their school work not home work. So for 3 hours he was writing it, rewriting, tantruming & screaming. He went to bed at 9.30 completely exhausted. At 10 he woke up crying that his belly hurts so bad he’s about to throw up. He had really watery diarrhoea, was shaking etc. so I told him he’s not going to school tomorrow. He’s now absolutely peacefully asleep, snuggled up it a worry in the world.
Now, I don’t want to encourage him running away from school problems like this & I wonder if I did the right thing by letting him stay at home. On the other hand, he’s 7… and so worried about things and so exhausted he made himself ill. Surely he needs a little break?

At 7 he shouldn't be so worried about school work that he spends 3 hours on it, nor should he be suffering with what sounds like an anxious tummy. I would be asking for a chat with the class teacher and probably the senco. Poor little mite.

Hi

so sorry to hear your DS is feeling this way. It’s a hard one isn’t it but only you can know if you did the right thing. You know your little one best, I agree with the earlier post, speak with school, I am sure they would be mortified to hear of the suffering your DS has gone through, at a time that should be fun.

Sometimes schools forget not all children enjoy the pressure of performing and the school work surely isn’t so important, at his age, that it makes him unwell.

My DD is 11 and went through phases of this during primary school normally during times that should have been fun were always so much more stressful than sticking to the norm and completing work.

My DS had a great support network at primary from teachers and classmates. I know my DS didn’t always agree with me speaking to school but at times it was necessary and always worked out for the best.

My DS performed regularly from reception and right up to year 6 when she had a big part in the end of school production, we had wobbles and tears and at times but we knew when we could push and when we needed to step in as parents.

Remember you know your DS better than anyone and if you are feeling uneasy about things then my advice would be to speak to school.

If he's got watery diarrhoea then it's likely he's ill and needs to stay off.

Many kids get over excited this time of year and some will push through tummy aches etc to do stuff they want to do.