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3 year old social skills - screaming go away to adults!

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DaisyChain234 · 24/10/2024 22:56

Curious to see if anyone elses 3 yo has been through similar. My 3.5yo has recently starting hating people!! In group settings in particular. A couple of examples

  1. A new playgroup - my son clung to me for 45 mins, screaming to go home, telling people to go away and that i must not talk to anyone ( his little sister was happily playing independently)

  2. at a football traing for his brother - we had to hide in corner of pitch whilst he cried for us to leave, theres too many people, dont talk to anyone

  3. at school pick up for his brother - if i say hi to another parent, he cries and screams for me to take him to the corners and not to talk to anyone, burying himself away in my shoulders.

  4. at the park, a friend happened to be there too and he was screaming for her to go away.

nursery drop offs have been really tough for the last few weeks, a lot of crying, trying to run away etc.
he is happy when at nursery and has a great time, but nursery have said they are trying to work on his social skills.

he has siblings who he gets on well with and socialise normally, and is usually a very confident child.

just seems like quite extreme reactions to have in social situations, he only started doing this in the last month or so.

i dont want him distressed but its getting really awkward when i cant talk to anyone without him shoutinf for them to go away!!

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Nogodsnomasters · 25/10/2024 04:56

What does he say when you ask him "why don't you want mummy to talk to people?" Is he able to explain a sort of reason for it?

DaisyChain234 · 25/10/2024 17:17

Nogodsnomasters · 25/10/2024 04:56

What does he say when you ask him "why don't you want mummy to talk to people?" Is he able to explain a sort of reason for it?

Quite often the response is he doesnt like them ! Or that he doesnt like people.

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Nogodsnomasters · 25/10/2024 19:28

Mmm, if this has started recently out of the blue, has anything scary happened at nursery that could have triggered it?

DaisyChain234 · 25/10/2024 22:44

Nogodsnomasters · 25/10/2024 19:28

Mmm, if this has started recently out of the blue, has anything scary happened at nursery that could have triggered it?

Nothing that nursery have mentioned or that he has talked about. He is conversational but has a wild imagination and if I ask him about his day he says he has been in the jungle all day with a tiger, so its hard to get much info from him!

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midlifepisces · 25/10/2024 22:48

...could be autistic?

DaisyChain234 · 26/10/2024 19:07

midlifepisces · 25/10/2024 22:48

...could be autistic?

The thought did cross my mind. He doesnt really show any other characteristics of autism though, and its only been in the last few weeks

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TomatoSandwiches · 26/10/2024 19:11

Sounds like too many people around overwhelm him.

RedHelenB · 26/10/2024 19:20

I would tell him.its nice to talk to people but he doesn't have to if he didn't want to.

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