My DS has separated parents. Dad has since had two more children. His Dad recently had 'family photos' taken, which were booked for the weekend that DS was at home with me (no attempt to have DS attend for these photos). DS is aware of them though and I'd have rather he'd been there and grandparent took him away for photos he wasn't required for, he ought have been involved in some (Full family, Dad and his kids, siblings). Dad then couldn't have DS for midweek evening, so swapped with his mum. Turned out he was unavailable for his time with his eldest child (12) as was picking/picking up photos. The younger kids mother was sending pics through to Dad's mum, which DS was shown. I'm flabbergasted by how inconsiderate of DS (and his mum, whom I'm friendly with) this is, how cruel! So my question is what do I do? Do I tell Dad that he's totally disregarded DS and his emotional wellbeing or am I best to stay silent. DS says that historically he is punished there when I attempt to defend him. Myself, my husband and his Dad had a brilliant co-parenting relationship until his partner entered the scene. Friendly handovers, shared experiences, Ds was in his element and my husband supported this wholly. That's all been stopped and now I feel she is manipulating DS out of the picture in small tactical and insensitive steps (which Dad is either blind to or willfully accepting of). Is DS to be expected to want to go once their home is plastered with family pics which don't include him? And am I expected to make him go if he expresses that he doesn't want to? I always have, I've told him Dad loves him too but given the latest I feel he ought be heard?