My preview post was deleted by MN so I am reposting following the guidelines.
I was married in 2002 for 11 years but in 2013 we decided to follow different ways. We had a daughter together who is now 14 years old. Since 2013, my daughter has lived with me in Brazil and her father in London. Last year my daughter showed interest in living in the UK with her father so she could continue her studies there and pursue a university degree later on.
My daughter has been speaking to her father about her desire to move to the UK since December and her father was avoiding speaking about this to her. Then, one month before ending the deadlines to apply for the schools her father told her it would not be possible to have her in his house because he has another son who has autism and he needed to give him support and that my daughter's bedroom is his house and is now his wife ́s office. She was torn apart with this rejection.
Facing this hurtful situation with her father she then managed to find a solution. She looked up for state boarding schools nearby his house. She sent the application, passed on the interview with the head teacher who was impressed and offered her a full boarder vacancy . We were all very proud of her as she went so well in the interview. Then she went to tell her father and asked if she could only stay at his house 1 weekend a month and 1 week on the break terms when the students need to exeat the school and he said NO again.
This is a life opportunity for her future and she really doesn't want to miss it. Her father didn't ask where the school was, didn't look up the dates she would need to stay, didn 't ask if a taxi could be arranged to pick her up at school and drop her off. He just said it was not possible. He is not doing any effort to help her and is destroying her self esteem and mental health.
I am paying for all the school fees, the UK flights, uniforms, holidays so it won't affect him financially. He would continue paying only the same amount of money he already gave to her. The only thing she needed from him was a bed to sleep these couple of days when she was off school but he just don´t care.
He is clearly rejecting and neglecting her needs using poor excuses. Her father and his wife have caused enormous emotional distress in a manner that has significantly impacted Mariana´s life.
They want her to give up her dreams and ambitions just because they can not make an effort to have her for a couple of days a year at his house. This is unacceptable! My daughter has been crying everyday and started seeing a psychologist 2 months ago due to this situation with her father. I have all reports from her psychologist of the damage her father is causing on her mental health. Have all the conversation history and audio of my daughter crying while speaking to her father.
I would like to know what my rights are in these situations. Can I force him to pay the costs for a residential guardian company and a hosting family to look after her in the UK? Can I force him to have physical responsibility and accept her in his house? Can I make him pay for all the extra costs I am having with the psychologist? Can I sue him for causing emotional distress and for the trauma she will carry for the rest of her life for his rejection and missing this great educational opportunity?
Are you able to help me or could you direct me to someone who could assist me?
Many Thanks!