Is my son (toddler) from a Past Life or suffering Mentally?

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Hi There,

I have a 2.5-year-old little boy, called Lewis, he’s a very happy, bright child, and shows a lot of empathy towards other adults and children which is lovely to see, however this last week we have noticed he keeps repeating the same thing which we’re a little concerning, most mornings when we go into his bedroom to wake him up for the day, he tells us he is ‘Broken’ I’ve asked him several times where he feels he is broken, and you can see him thinking, and he generally points to various places on his body, but they I’m unsure if it’s a physical ‘Broken’, he then often goes onto say he’s sad, and then he wants his Mommy back… I want to go home - I do my best to reassure him and say I’m here, and he will often repeat, ‘I want my Mommy Back – I want to go home’ – I can’t quite tell what he means, and my partner and I are starting to question if he is remembering a past life or even predicting something in the future whish sounds absolutely Ludacris, I know!

Lewis has always appeared to be more ahead of his time, and picks things up effortlessly, his empathy is very unusual for a child his age, and people are very drawn to him, which is lovely and we have always just felt very grateful for him, but now he is saying these things about being broken, wanting his mommy back when I am stood with him, I’m starting to feel a little concerned for his mental wellbeing, and if there is something genuinely bothering him.

We have noticed this last week, he has been waking in the night crying, screaming, and shouting out for things but will then quickly settle and go back to sleep – I’m unsure of he is remembering things in a dream or if it is some sort of night terror, on the basis he say’s these things usually when he wakes up.

Yesterday evening we were at my Mums house, and I was changing his nappy, my mom was stood next to me, and I’d been explaining our concerns with what he’s been saying, so I thought I’d ask Lewis if he’s Fixed Now – I thought this way, I’m not saying the word ‘Broken’ and I can also see how much of an understanding he has to being broken – He quickly replied with ‘I’m still Broken, I want my Mommy Back’… My mom seemed a bit taken a back by it, we both reassured Lewis I was there…

If anyone could help with any sort of suggestions, or if their child has said similar things, I would really appreciate it! 😊

Stacy.

Hey

Just lurking and read your post. Gosh I can imagine why you’re concerned. I think most parents would be especially when repeated like he is.

I can only draw on my experience and say both my dd’s went through very vivid dreams around 2 and a half, their sleep was all over the place and I remember them having very deep sleeps that I couldn’t wake them up from. My older child also went through a stage of climbing out of her bed and walking around and we couldn’t wake her.

I would ask your HV what they think.

Also something else (I might sound mad
for saying) but my mum was very alternative, when I was younger she actually took me to see someone about my childhood anxiety stemming from a past life and of course they said yes this is what it is etc but in reality looking back I can now pin point what it was and it wasn’t a last life. What I’m saying is if you do seek help from an ‘alternative’ therapist just be aware they’ll probably say this is exactly what it is a past life, when in reality it might just be a developmental stage.

I hope you can get some answers.

Has anyones child ever said anything that made you believe they lived a past life/anything like that? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/the_unexplained/4695137-has-anyones-child-ever-said-anything-that-made-you-believe-they-lived-a-past-lifeanything-like-that

No experience, sorry, but your query reminded me of the link I posted, perhaps a good place to compare notes?

how clear is his speech? toddlers can easily get words in a muddle and say (for example) 'broken' when meaning 'woken' is in 'woken up'.

Maybe he just means 'I am awake' but has got the words in a muddle.

Try it out with a teddy or doll - tuck teddy into bed, say 'teddy asleep'. wake teddy up - ask if 'teddy is broken'.

Similarly, the 'I want mummy back' could mean 'I want a cuddle' but he has heard the phrase 'mummy back' in some context related to 'I want comfort' and is now repeating it to get comfort.

Boring explanation, but his theory of mind is developing at this age, and he's perhaps sensing his growing independence from you and sense of self. He's no longer a baby, and is beginning to realise it. By 'broken' I think he means he's breaking his former complete dependence of you ('I want my Mummy back'/'i want how it used to be between us back') and starting to form his own opinions and thoughts on things. Perhaps he's worried about your bond, so carry on with all the reassurance and keep praising him for all the big boy things he's now able to do.

Who is looking after him during the day?

If its not you, I'd be concerned about what was going on wherever he is the majority of the day tbh.

My thoughts for what they are worth-
i don’t believe in past lives at all so consider this not to be a possibility
this is happening upon waking??? He seems to be having night terrors and bad dreams, is this not a more likely explanation?
He’s 2, his language and understanding is limited. This is much more likely to be a misunderstanding of how we use certain words
You have reacted to it? In front of him? Asked him about it and brought it back up? Given him attention for it and made it out to be a ‘thing’??? Toddlers respond to the way you respond. Think about ho you may be feeding into this.
It’s a bit like when a parent says, in front of a child, ‘oh he won’t like that’… He didn’t know whether he was going to like it or not but now you’ve said that…

Does he seem otherwise 'with it' when he's saying these things? Could he be having a medical episode, or is it literally that he seems totally fine, he's just saying odd things? Is he distressed or matter of fact?

I have an allergy, and it makes me really ill, but also delerious - it's like being in a waking dream. Reality doesn't exist.

DM has told me that when I was about 5 I had an allergic reaction and just kept crying that 'I want mummy' and I just didn't recognise her or know where I was. I'm wondering if it's something like that - not necessarily an allergic reaction, but something causing him to be out of touch with reality.

I'd probably video it as much as you can, and take him to the Dr.

Does he go to nursery? I have heard staff say lightheartedly that they are broken when getting up from the floor. (Just that they are so stiff compared to the children)

He may just have a mild virus and his limbs are aching.

What he's saying might mean something else.

'Broken' might mean sore, hurting, aching etc.

'Wanting Mummy back' might mean he wants to feel differently. Or to feel better, like his usual self.

If he’s having night terrors he may be feeling exhausted by having disturbed sleep and describing it as feeling broken, he could also describe it as being sad. Even as adults we can feel rotten in the morning if we’ve not had a restful night. Does he have a good bedtime routine and get enough sleep as lack of good quality sleep can be a cause of night terrors.