Adhd/ impulsivity/ violence

[hdtbxujb122344]

I posted ages ago but had it removed.
6 yes daughter having help at school from SENCO re anger and bursts of behaviour at home.
They've agreed to put her on the pathway to be assessed for ASD/ADHD.
There's a lot to it but I just wanted to talk to any parents In a similar situation.
A moment ago my youngest tried to go downstairs before my 6 year old. She wanted to go first.
My youngest opened the gate and started walking and my 6 year old shoved her down.
Bu some fluke I caught her by the wrist and she dangled.
I feel sick, there was no build up
I don't know what to do to be honest

[hdtbxujb122344]

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[hdtbxujb122344]

Anyone at all had similar issues? Or found this kind of impulsivity to be a sign of other things?

[LikeEmeraldeyes]

My child (6) is autistic. We micromanage things like stairs very closely. There is always always an adult within less than arms reach night and day. He takes a lot of care to keep him and his brother safe despite being fully verbal and in mainstream school. We are in the process of applying for dla for him to account for his additional care needs.

[hdtbxujb122344]

It's never been something like this before, I'd never have guessed it was coming. Although it was the change in her face I registered and recognised she'd 'switched' over to making a bad choice.
I call it 'going'. I can tell when she's going or gone and there's no getting her back until she's burst out of whatever it is. But never something this dangerous.
I know 6 year olds can be impulsive but now I'm even more worried than I was before

[HauntedPencil]

My DS has ADHD and can act impulsively without thinking of the consequences.

I know exactly what you mean about the facial expressions, he definitely has a look about him when he's doing these daft things.

[HauntedPencil]

He is also prone to lashing out, angry episodes etc.

[hdtbxujb122344]

Thankyou, I feel it's a face change only noticeable to the ones that know if that makes sense.
I can't say too much about it but I know another very similarly behaved child and that's what first made me really wonder about adhd.
I really want to help her I just don't know how.
She's angelic at school, so possibly masking. I feel bad saying that I'm so drained from the angry outbursts but I feel bad for her too

[HauntedPencil]

We definitely found it beneficial to get a diagnosis but it's not quick, hopefully the school will manage it all knowing she is going to be assessed.

[Chocolatesandroses]

My autistic ds is the same , just will get frustrated and hit his sister . Had broke several tvs/tablets but as he’s getting older and now he’s in a special provisions in a school , the behaviour is improving. I don’t have any advice but your not alone .

[sunshineandshowers40]

My DC was similar at that age although they weren't diagnosed until they were 11 years old. They would also have a look. Being honest, the diagnosis (ADHD) helped me understand better and medication (very much a personal choice) also improved family life. We are a few years down the line now and things are much calmer.

[hdtbxujb122344]

Thanks for the replies. Whatever's going on obviously isn't going to be a quick fix.
There's been volatility that was noticeable from around two and I assumed it would naturally pass.
Could still be a phase, I can't tell what's what sometimes!