Hi mums
I have a 4 year old girl. At her nursery there is a very strong friendship group of girls (3/4 girls) that she really wants to be a part of. But I understand from her that every time she wants to play with them, they say no.
I've told her that some children may only want to play among themselves and that she can play with other children in her class. But every other day I hear about how X or Y girl (from that group) said No to her.
Finally last night I shared examples with her of when I was little and wanted to play with some girls who didn't want to play with me. And that I went on to make some other friends. This did something because her eyes twinkled and her demeanour changed, then she asked me lots of questions about it. Went to her dad and asked him about his experience. Then she brought it up again this morning. Our chat last night helped her I think.
I spoke to her teacher this morning and she said that they are dealing with the children forming such a strong group and encouraging them to play with everyone and that my daughter does approach the teachers when children are not playing well.
There are other girls that my daughter likes and plays with. But she is still processing how to handle a No.
What should I do? Dad suggests arranging 1-1 playdates with those girls but I feel their mums encourage the type of friendship they have. Please help. I want my child to be happy and thriving and feel its too early for her to be experiencing this.