Daughter told nursery daddy hits mummy not true

[loopymumer]

My LO 4 years old told her nursery teacher that daddy hit mummy. This is not true. She told them that daddy doesn't live with us? I was so shocked I didn't know what to do. The nursery called us in to speak with me and my OH. We didn't mind as we know they care. But I wonder why she said it. Any similar situations?

hope you are okay, what are the nursery doing about it

Small kids do sometimes come out with made up stuff like this.

This popped up in similar threads with similar stories www.mumsnet.com/talk/education/4684381-ds-told-nursery-mummy-and-daddy-hit-each-other

Nursery should be following safeguarding policy and referring to social care…..whether they beleive you or not…..they have to tell you….but they can do it without your consent…l.it’s not nursery remit to decide whether it’s true or not…..that’s down to childrens services

Dont be angry with the nursery if they made a safeguarding referral re this. They will be following procedure. To be honest, I’m surprised they had you both in to discuss it at the same time. Surely, it would have been better to have you in alone. Not very impressed with that, they would not know it was false.

Im surprised they called you in to be honest

I would of thought that they would refer straight to social services

When my son was 3 or 4 he came home from nursery and didn't seem his usual self. I asked him everything was okay and he said no. Then being concerned his mom asked if everything was alright at nursery and he said no. Then we asked what was wrong and if he was being bullied or if someone was hurting him. He said yes, a boy has been punching me in the face. We were both shocked and asked if he knew the name of the boy, he said yes it's "Brucie bogtrotter".

I wouldn't be concerned OP kids that age say all sorts of things.

Kids can get real life tangled up with things that have seen on tv or read in stories, imagination runs wild etc. it is worrying though when you find yourself on the end of a safeguarding incident!

Different situation, but my friends son once falsely informed his teacher that his mum was hitting him. (He was misbehaving quite badly at home and had various things confiscated, it appeared to be a punishment to her in his mind).

School wouldn't allow her to take him home until social services had cleared it that his dad could collect him and confirmed would be there at all times to oversee everything. There was a brief investigation and social services were satisfied it was not a genuine accusation.

So you may find social services make contact, but try not to panic!