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Teenage mental health

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ScatteredMama82 · 12/01/2023 09:35

Looking for some advice please if anyone has been through similar.
I don’t know if I’m making more of this than I need to but I am worried about my DS (13).

When he was about 10 he had a really difficult spell, prompted by a combination of a supply teacher covering his class teacher’s long term absence (for some reason she and my DS got off on the wrong foot) and at the same time my DH going away on a military exercise.
He was really acting up at school and home (nothing major, but out of character).
When he got told off he was scratching himself (digging his fingernails into his arms, legs, hard enough to draw blood on a couple of occasions).
His school were fantastic, the supply teacher went away, they put some 1-1 sessions in place with him and one of the TAs who had specialist MH training and it all settled down again.
Nothing similar until the last couple of weeks.
He’s definitely hormonal, and twice now in 2 weeks he has got so angry (once at himself, once at his brother).
When he was angry with himself he scratched the back of his own hands.
When he was angry with his brother he punched a metal chair in his room and bent it, hurting his knuckles at the same time.

I know teenage rage and big emotions are normal, but I’m worried about the self-harm aspect and don’t want it to escalate.
My DH has suggested we buy him punch bag as a healthy way to get the rage out.
Is that a good idea?
I’d also like him to talk to someone.
He’s at a different school now, I’m not 100% sure I want to involve school and think we’d rather pay for private counselling.
Thanks in advance for any insight you can offer.

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mirabella17 · 21/01/2023 11:59

Sorry no one has replied.

This rang a bell with me as my son's mental health difficulties started at 13 and slowly got worse until he started deliberately scratching himself at 16/17. We had to get the school and CAMHs involved (who were useless)& fortunately got him 15 CBT sessions through my dh's work scheme.

Although he still has anxiety, he does have strategies to deal with it now and the self harm stopped after 4 months.

I strongly recommend getting support in place as it may escalate. CBT therapy is very useful, as it will give him the strategies to manage his anger/thoughts.

We also got the school's pastoral lead involved which was the best thing we ever did (having put off involving the school for a long time) and her support really helped put my ds on the slow road to recovery.

Best of luck for you and your son.

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