I'm furious - my MIL a retired doctor, is such an arsehole! My DD14 has had an existential breakdown this year, self harming, tried suicide 3 times, not been in school for a year, rebuilding herself. She's likely ASD, has Tourette's, and has had a really tough year. She's overwhelmed by noise and people and can't cope in many 'normal' situations including school. We've actually come a long way this year, CAMHS, counselling, psychiatry support, paediatrician support, Ed psych, all supportive of her, she even told me the other day that she doesn't feel like she did when she was taking overdoses and self harming daily back in the summer, it was such a huge relief to hear that she'd come so far and I'm so proud of her. Today - f'ing gtandmother measured her to make her a skirt, she squished her stomach with both hands, and told her she needs to exercise and do more exercise like her cousin does (favoured grandchild), my DD has had to go on the pill to help her bad periods and very dark thoughts during her cycle, so yes, has put on a little weight (not much) her doctor told me that it wasn't her concern as DD has body dysmorphia anyway and has had to deal with so much this year she just wants my DD to work slowly towards a more even keel for herself, get a diagnosis and sort her medication out ... sensible... anything else will come with time. She's back to doing school work and asking for more and more - brilliant, settling on her meds, working on her self harming, going well... doing so well ... yet her fucking idiotic grandmother thinks it's ok to ignore all that hard work, she likes everything to be perfect like the Jones's, and just tell her she needs to lose weight (shes 5'9" by the way and a size 12-14 ... she used to be a 10-12 last year so hardly crime of the century!) ... I'm furious! She also doesn't sleep well and wakes late, like many ASD kids do, so they were later than expected (DH let them know) they had literally all afternoon to shop for material. Gm let rip and had a tantrum, went bonkers because they were late ... no stress, completely ducked up my DD special day with her GP to get a Christmas present. The only reason we discussed this as a present was so she could spend more time with GM as my DD finds her very difficult and can't relax with her ... funny that! This type of thing happens a lot!
My DH family just let her walk over everyone and I've told DH he needs to let her know how damaging she is, it's got to stop! She's damaging our kids now. This isn't unexpected, but considering her career we'd expected her to have some understanding ... NOPE! I honestly think she thinks it's a phase ... other professionals have said that as she's nearly 80 she's used to old fashioned psychiatry - but she's pushing my beautiful DD backwards, she's just toxic and nasty ... probably all because 'what would the neighbours say' shite ... sorry ... rant over ... oh Ds is likely ADHD too and she's on his case a lot too 😤🤯🤬