Hello,
At around 3 years of age my little girl disclosed abuse by an older family member (another child, boy around 9 yr) the discloser was that he had touched her private parts.
safegaurding head kicked in and I immediately stopped all contact and called cps.
my daughter was interviewed by police and cps at home and the older child was taken to the police station. Of course denied this and it was decided that pressing charges would cause more distress for my daughter.
I was advised by police and cps that she was so young she would not remember this.
fast forward 6 years I have a very anxious 9 year old. She is afraid of older boys. Now today she blurted out that she has intrusive thoughts about licking other peoples genitals including her pe teacher and boys at school.
my gut is telling me this is a delayed effect of the abuse and prehaps something she was made to do?
I want to tell her about what happened to her at 3 years old it the hope that it helps her make sense of it, but I worry that will cause more problems.
for now I’ve just told her that she’s not weird, that people can have thoughts like that there is no shame. That I love her and that she is safe.
I just want to help here.
for context I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse that was brushed under the carpet and never discussed, this has caused me a number of issues in adulthood including my relationship with my mother. So I am aware that this is triggering me and my experience.
any advice, I don’t know where to turn….