My boys are 14&12, I left my narcissistic husband (now ex) 8 years ago- we have a child arrangement order in place 50/50.
my ex has always played games/domestic abuse (mainly verbally but has assisted me twice when picking my kids up) bullying tactics/ brainwashing the kids/using the kids as a go between etc. for 8 years he has done everything in his power to take my kids off me and hasn’t succeeded until 4 weeks ago when my disrespectful 14 year old and I had an argument about the way he speaks and treats me and ran off to his dad! His dad has money and buys them whatever they want, has a massive house with acres of land, 2 dogs, flash car (oh but when I’m court he doesn’t earn more than minimum wage!!) so of course as a teen and tween by boys are lapping it up, I mean who wouldn’t. However this time my ex has proper got into my 14 year olds head and he hasn’t spoke to me in over 3 weeks 😢.
i got a letter from ex’s solicitor saying he’s taking me to court to stop all contact between me and both boys so I have now had to appoint a solicitor which I cannot afford (nurse wages are rubbish!). My boys were meant to be home on the 6th August as per court order however ex refused to give them back so have had to put an application in to court for a breach of the order. My 12 year old kept ringing and messaging saying he wanted to come home but was scared to tell dad, they were left at home one morning and my 12 year old ran away and asked me to pick him up which of course I did.
unfortunately my 12 year old and his mates weee “bored” yesterday and they went to his dads as they can build stuff on ex’s land but he didn’t tell me. His dad has said he’s taking him to buy him a new phone today so 12 YO said he wanted to sleep there so he can get his phone in the morning. AGAIN ex is using money to keep my kids from me.
Still awaiting a court date but I’m Not sure how much more of this I can deal with. I feel like I’ve failed as a mum and that my narcissistic bully of an ex has eventually after 8 years achieved what he’s always set out to do. I don’t know if I have anymore fight in me. I love my boys however will never have the big house and all the money in the world like their dad seems to have.