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Child mental health

Sibling contact

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lmonighk468 · 06/08/2022 09:28

Just a trigger warning this thread contains discussion of child sexual abuse and self harm.


my daughter who is 12 was sexually abused by her father on Boxing Day 2021. There is an ongoing police investigation.

he used to live with his wife and three children, my daughter would go every other weekend for contact and had stable relationships with all of them until this happened.

none of the children now have any contact with him.

this year my daughter started self harming.

I have attempted to facilitate consistent contact with the ex wife and three children she is making it very difficult.

most recently she states her eldest age 7 is self harming and so she has made the decision that my daughter can no longer have any part in their lives and blocked me on everything. She is victim blaming my daughter, at no point has my daughter encouraged self harm, she is deeply ashamed and receiving support for self harm and sexual assault.

what can I do? Do they have a legal right to contact with each other? I’m so scared as this is going to be really triggering for my daughter she is going to blame her self and self harm I’m scared she is going to take her own life

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lmonighk468 · 10/08/2022 23:13

Need help

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LilyMarshall · 10/08/2022 23:18

What good would forcing contact with people who didn't want it do?

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lmonighk468 · 13/08/2022 19:50

The children all want contact with each other it’s the step parent that is refusing

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lmonighk468 · 13/08/2022 19:51

The children all want contact it’s the step mother that has stopped contact

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