My lovely DD started high school last year and has settled in well. She is a bright girl and perfectionist and also the middle of a large family of siblings. I was always concerned that this may lead to something as when she was younger she went through a year of pulling out her hair when her bf left school. She had counselling which had no impact and she suddenly out of the blue decided to stop herself which she did immediately. Anyway, over the last few weeks she has started skipping breakfast, not eating her break snack, skipping lunch but eating junk when she gets home. She always comes down late for dinner too. Last week I noticed a huge scratch on her leg which she claimed happened when she fell over. I wasn't convinced so hid scissors, razors etc. and kept and eye on her. This morning she has come down with cuts on her arms. She has been having some friendship issues but nothing sounding too serious.I am literally at my wits end and have been crying all morning when I should be wfh. My other child has had a few years of mental health issues which has taken me and my DH to hell and back and I just can't handle this or be strong enough anymore. What can I do? She would be furious is I involved school (although I would have thought they would have spotted the leg cut as it's huge) and our previous experience of CAHMS has been worse than terrible. We don't have a huge amount of spare money to pay for private counselling.