Hi
My child's 8. His mum, my wife, died 18 months ago.
My Child had minor melt down last week. He has a new temporary teacher, usual one is on maternity. He lost a race to spell a word out loud against another child and slammed his hands on the desk.
Due to this an inexperienced (less than a Yr in the job) TA has given him a stressed ball and he's been taught to tap his fingers as a sign he getting anxious. Is this normal?
Hes never shown signs behavioural issues, he can be a bit naughty now and then but nothing significant. Ive asked for the stress ball to be removed and the finger tapping to stop they have as good as told me to do one. I feel like these techniques are classic ADHD techniques which he doesn't have.
Finally when asked what made the class sad My child said he wished he could go to heaven sooner so he could see his mum, he told me this himself. This seems a reasonable thought to me. When the teacher, who wasn't present, conveyed this to me via telephone they said 'he wished he was dead so he could see his mum'. In my eyes these two statements have completely different meaning?
The new teacher has pushed the topic of his mother on several occasions with the Head claiming they are trained to explore the topic because they have concerns about what he said. Surely they are forcing this issue or am I over reacting? I feel like they are over stepping the mark. He's always happy going to school in the morning but I'm fed up of it all now.
Again I've written to the head an conveyed I'm not happy with repeatedly approaching the topic and again he's told me to do one.
I feel there approach is completely unreasonable and disproportionate. Is there anything I can do to get them to back off?