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Adult child with anxiety

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Amigos4 · 29/05/2022 18:43

Hi all, new to this and was looking for some advice. I’ll try keep it as short as I can. My eldest son who is 20 has terrible anxiety which could have been caused through various reasons as his dad walked out as he met someone else. He also smoked cannibis for a few years when he was younger (which I didn’t know about) and the doctor seems to think a lot of the way he is has been caused by this as well. My son now doesn’t go out at all and I’ve met someone else whom I’ve been seeing for 4 years but it’s getting to the stage that my eldest is beginning to rule things. When I want to go through and see my partner he’s trying to stop me by saying he isn’t feeling good. He’s very angry, stressed, and very manipulating. I am very on edge with him and I’ve also got two other children who are 16 and 11. I know they can be scared of him too but he’s not like that all the time. He’s had counselling which didn’t really help and the medication isn’t doing much either. I’m at my wits end as I’m so stressed and my relationship with a lovely man isn’t looking great either because of all this. Anyone else going through this? What do you do?

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gunnersgold · 29/05/2022 18:46

Keep going back to the doctors until you get a medication that works and get him some cbt .

Amigos4 · 29/05/2022 23:01

He’s had counselling and didn’t help much. He is scared taking medication too and won’t take anything with seratonin in it because he’s convinced himself that he took a reaction on one tablet before and he’s terrible for looking up side effects and is so paranoid. I was even thinking of going private as just feel that waiting lists are so long now for mental health 😢

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gunnersgold · 30/05/2022 06:59

We have gone private for everything because there is no money in the nhs for mental health services !
You can take propranolol for anxiety which is a beta blocker .. ultimately though he will need some sort of meds !

Shakeitshakeitbaby · 30/05/2022 07:21

How long has he been on the meds and is he actually taking them? If its longer than a couple of months and he is taking then I would suggest back to the docs for alternative meds or a dose increase.

jajabanks · 30/05/2022 07:25

I got some therapy really quickly through anxiety uk for adult son just recently, I recommend even just getting in touch with them. It has really helped. Best wishes as he sounds similar to my son so know how you feel X

Amigos4 · 31/05/2022 13:31

Thank you so much and hope your son feels better soon xxx

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Amigos4 · 31/05/2022 13:32

It’s propranolol that he’s taking but doesn’t seem to be helping xxx

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