7 year old mental health crisis?

[Lankyboxmum]

Hello, my 7 year old daughter is autistic and awaiting ADHD assessment (very probable). For the past few month, which has got progressively more often, she’s been saying distressing things - I want to die, I wish I was never born, nobody cares about me, I need help to live, I don’t feel normal, I don’t want to live anymore’. She’s very upset and although she hasn’t actively attempted to hurt herself, I don’t want it to get to that point.
She does lash out and get aggressive to other and become a danger at times.

I’m literally heartbroken and just can’t sit and listen without doing anything anymore, CYPS (it’s like camhs in my area) won’t do anything while we are waiting for the ADHD assessment, which she’s 9th on the waiting list for.

I really think a&e could be the only option.

I’m really sorry to hear this. Unfortunately I don’t think A&E will be much help, as there are unlikely to be any paediatric mental health specialists around.
Does your daughter have any self-soothing activities? Does she have her own room or a safe space where she can go when things get too much? It sounds like she may be overstimulated at school or in public environments so she needs somewhere calm.
Do you think ear defenders/fidget toys/weighted blankets might help?
You could always ring Young Minds for support and advice. I would also talk to school to see if they can help with referrals. If you have the funds, maybe look into play or art therapy?

Play therapy sounds like a good option if you can afford it.

I've been there and it's hugely distressing.

Hope your slot comes along fast.

She has a sensory tent, ear defenders, she watches certain things on YouTube to calm her. I stay beside her but at a distance as not to overwhelm her when she’s like this and try to soothe her. It’s hard, just not sure where to turn.

Have you got a supportive GP? I think you need to request an emergency appointment to discuss your options. She’s not coping and neither are you, so you need help in the interim until the assessment takes place.

If you need immediate support, you could try contacting the emergency helpline. Really hope things get better for you both.

www.nhs.uk/service-search/mental-health/find-an-urgent-mental-health-helpline