Separation Anxiety Help...

[W3STY17]

Hello

Wondering if anyone on here can help.

My DD is 8, the summer holidays always throws her off by being out of routine but this summer she is really suffering with separation anxiety.

She constantly wakes throughout the night & I have to sit in her room till she falls asleep.

She is getting next to nothing sleep (as am I) but I just don't know how to try & put a stop to it.

I'm questioned for my every move. I'm followed everywhere around the house, she stands outside the bathroom door when I need the loo & so on!

She has a full on meltdown if she walks into a room when I'm not there.

If anyone has any ideas that I can try to help, I would be extremely grateful.

BUMP

@ElisabethKardy @HelenTwigs
What's happened on here?
What are the links about?

Are you with her all the time?
If not, what’s it like when working etc

@Marni83
No I'm not with her all the time. If she stays with grandparents she's absolutely fine but when she's around me she follows my every move & is always anxious what I'm doing.

But apart from you, with others she’s ok?
Is it literally just you and her grandparents she is with? Absolutely no one else without you there ever?

@Marni83
We have always stayed as a family of 4. Myself, my husband (their father) & our two daughters. If I'm not there my husband is, if not then it'll be their grandparents that have them.
She is absolutely fine being with their father & grandparents, even when staying the night at grandparents she doesn't worry about me.
But when she is in my company she has anxiety where I am or what I'm doing.
She has been like this since such a young age but as she is getting older her anxiety is getting worse.

No advice but my 6 year old is the same! Worse this last year, possibly triggered by Covid? Absolutely screams in terror when she can’t see me even if I just go to the toilet 😥

And at school?

Never goes on play dates?

@Annoyedandirritated
I'm so glad I'm not alone.
You could be right & COVID has had an impact on them.
My daughter does the same, I can't go anywhere without her worrying.

@Marni83
She absolutely loves school, is always worse behaviour trait wise in the summer holiday as she loves school & loves the routine!
School have started to notice that she is struggling with certain things so in September they're putting things in place for her.
She goes on play dates & is always happy.

What have the school noticed she’s struggling with?

@Marni83
With finishing work, reading, struggling with writing.
There was a couple of other things that were picked up but I can't fully remember 🤦🏻‍♀️

Ah
I wouldn’t be surprised if all linked
If she is aware that struggling at school, she is probably not going to be hugely enthused about return

@Marni83
She has been on the countdown to go back to school since she broke up for the summer holidays. She loves school & always has done. She's excited to have a new teacher, new classroom & most of all her friends!