How to build momentum (anxiety recovery)

[TeenMinusTests]

Struggling today. I feel we aren't really making progress with DD.
She will do individual things as a one off but we don't seem to be able to build on things at all.
Today she has done a 10 min walk and feels that is enough of anything for the day. Even where she will walk has slowly shrunk over time.
I don't have enough energy to push her anymore.

Very much the same here @TeenMinusTests. DD left the house to walk around the block with DH and dog. That was huge - the first time she’d been beyond the garden for six months. But that was over two weeks ago now and she hasn’t tried - or even said she wants to try - to go out again. I tried once to gently ask if she was thinking about doing another walk - that didn’t go well - it counts as pressure….

We also had a blip this week on seeing the tutor in the garden. For a chat, not tuition. She hasn’t managed any tuition since last September. DD did manage it 3 weeks returning- an hour or so with me around too. When she couldn’t manage it this week (she asked me to cancel it) I asked if she’d be ok for a visit next week. I just got a shrug.

It is a long road.

No advice but I feel your pain on the lack of energy to push any further. It’s exhausting as a parent

Thanks. it helps to know we're not alone.

We have a holiday booked because it transferred on from 2020.
I really really feel I need a holiday.
DD currently says she won't go on holiday.
If she doesn't go, I can't.

We have 2 weeks to persuade her, but we need to get past a non-negotiable, very emotionally stressful and anxiety-inducing event next week first.

Stressful event went well, better than anticipated.
We didn't go on holiday. At least, DH did, DD and I didn't.
But it has all helped as a catalyst as DD is doing some of the little tasks DH usually does.
And we have found a cat to adopt too, so preparing for that.