My DD has Tics through anxiety

[Littlek0406]

My DD 13y has been through a hell of a lot this past six months, her auntie passed away in September (she was like another mum) she’s suffering from really bad anxiety/panic attacks plus at time she’s was going through some sexuality issues & too top at off she’s has now developed tics.
Please give me some advice, I’m at my wits end, every time I try & speak about with her I make it worst.

Sorry, no sensible advice but sorry you’re both going through this

Thank you @Donotgogentle I just feel so useless

This page has a helpline for parents who are worried: youngminds.org.uk/find-help/for-parents/

Maybe she can talk to someone, local counselling via a charity or school? If she can talk about her anxieties the tics might lessen.

You aren‘t the only family experiencing this, I know first hand.

Thank you @ChoccyJules but she already receives counselling. I’m not to the whether she’s told her counsellor but I’ll encourage her to do so thanks again I just so useless

My daughter age 12 started with tics last July after a period of very high stress. There is a lot of media coverage around this topic especially with this happening during lockdowns etc
I have seen an array of tics over the last 9 months. Some days are much worse than others. Are you on facebook? There is a fantastic support group on there xxxx

Also I should say please try not to worry.i know that gut wrench with every tic but honestly she will be ok x please feel free to message me if you want a chat xx

Thank you so much @Summersoul

Mine too...

All I have found so far that helps is telling her we love her (so that she really really knows), reassuring her that she is going through a very tough time and using the tics as a symptom to back off.

We haven't tried telling her how helpful the tics are as a signal but I have considered it....

Gentleness, kindness and reassurance are what have helped us ... not enough but have helped

She told us once that "it's okay" or "its going to be okay" are what she wants to hear from us