Struggling with daughter with suicidal thoughts

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My dd1 age 14 attempted suicide 4 weeks ago. She ended up in hospital and Mental health services are involved, first with crisis team and now Cahms are involved.

But my daughter is talking about committing suicide every night. Very calmly but very definitely saying she is constantly considering it.
We've had a home visit and now she's had 2 half hour sessions from cahms.
I can't sleep as she is up till 4 in the morning and I want to be sure she's asleep and doesn't do anything stupid. Then I'm up at work at 7am.

I've texted her psychologist at cahms and told them.
Should I expect more from the services or am I right to be severely underwhelmed and tucking pissed off at the lack of services. I'm on my knees at trying to cope
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Has she been given medication? If so and she's been taking it for 4 weeks then you've got maybe another 2 before they kick in.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Who is with her in the day?

She's not been prescribed any medication. There's been no mention of meds at all.

I rang the 24 hour mental health team at 3 in the morning on Thursday and just got told to take her to A and E.

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This must be awful for you. Can you get yourself signed off work for a bit? I would get on the phone to them and throw your weight around as much as you can. Get some advice from Mind perhaps or local mental health advocacy. Complain if you don't think you are getting an adequate response.

I think giving mind a ring would be a good idea. Thank you.
Getting signed off work is difficult. I can but it may cause more problems than staying in work

Would it be advisable to take her to the GP to see about medication? I can't believe they've not prescribed anything!

Thank you besure
I'm pleased you said that as it all seems too lax from Camhs . I don't think it helps as when you meet her she can come across quite happy and normal but in the same breath, she calmly details how she wants to end her life. I don't think she is being taken seriously and I think she needs medication now. I've rung the mental health team and they have forwarded on information to her Camhs worker. I must admit, I'm not sure what level of qualification he has but he's not a psychiatrist.

On the phone they told me to take her to A and E, but she seems too calm to take her.

She was relatively calm she attempted suicide.

Sorry to hear this - it sounds so frightening. As above but can you afford to pay for a private psychiatric consultation? You might get one a lot more quickly. Also try calling the Young Minds charity for support.

Take her to the doctor...

ADs can only be prescribed for a 14 year old by a psychiatrist. OPs DD is clearly already under the CAHMs service, so there is little point in 'taking her to the doctor'.

They clearly aren't taking you or her seriously enough OP, you really need to push for a psychiatric assessment. Are you on the waiting list? Unfortunately even after an attempt the wait can be lengthy but you need to keep on at them to get seen more urgently. Or go privately.

Yep GP won't prescribe needs that psychiatrist. You can take her to A&E even with her being calm. They can call in the crisis team to assess her which can help get the ball rolling with more support.

Also to add I feel your pain on the sleeping front, although it's sooo important that you're rested to better support her. Are there things you could do to help you rest easier? Eg i now have all pills and sharps locked away other than the 'main' knives in the kitchen. Those I wrap in a tea towel each night and keep next to my bed. I sleep with my door open so I could hear if she's off downstairs / going out or anything.