My son always afraid of me scold him

[KatieLeung]

I'm very upset about this, I swear I'm not that one who always scold him, as I usually talk to him if something goes wrong, but now he just stopped to do anything if he thinks I will scold him.

Like when he went to the toy shop, he just watched by his eyes, not to touch it, the reason is scared me to scold.

Does anyone have the same situation with me?

He is 4years old.

What do you mean by scold? Telling him off with a firm voice or shouting or physically disciplining him with smacking etc?

Who has been telling him off and how have they been doing it?

@HPandTheNeverEndingBedtime

What do you mean by scold? Telling him off with a firm voice or shouting or physically disciplining him with smacking etc?

Yes, kind of. He is just afraid of punishing, but I don't do that. I used to tell him my thought, we talk.

@Yankathebear

Who has been telling him off and how have they been doing it?

No one tell him, just his own mind.

My child has no idea about scolding or punishment or hitting. Why? Because he's never experienced it.

Clearly, whether by you or someone else, this has happened to you child.

You need to figure out who, or if it is you, sort it out

My son was like this and was super rule abiding and still is at 12 although he likes to announce me now. I'd never raised my voice fo him but he was anxious if he felt hed displeased me. I talked to the school and they provided him with play therapy. Worked wonders.
Hes still anxious about some things but very in tune with his feelings and I think because of the therapy and talking etc. Unlike his peers who all seem fine but act in challenging ways

Either you or someone else has overdone the punishment. He is now terrified of you. That’s very bad.

Please seek help with your parenting.

Making a child so terrified that he won’t touch anything for fear of you is wrong. Children need to be confident but also well mannered.

Who else has scolded him? Your mother? His father? Somebody has. Did they smack him? Or starve him? Both are wrong.

Is he afraid of other people like his is afraid of you? If not then he is scared of you so you have caused this problem.