Teenager shouting when learning something new

[wantingtounderstand]

The child is 14, and whenever she is learning something new she screams and shouts loudly and is sometimes rude to the point of being abusive. This happens in public and private. It happens when learning new academic work and learning new practical skills.
Recently it happened in public, the child was struggling and shouting loudly at the thing they were trying to learn to use, a new skill, effectively shouting abuse at an inanimate object, and when someone approached to offer help and sympathy the child was very rude to them, mimicking them and making personal comments. After the child calms down they are very apologetic and ashamed and talk about trying to manage it differently the next time. Does anyone have insights about what this is about by any chance?

Sorry I can’t help, but just wanted to say that she sounds horribly frustrated and overwhelmed, poor thing. I hope you get to the bottom of it x

I agree. Just to clarify, this isn't my dc, my dc are younger.

I want to understand it and would of course help if I can, my dc are affected by it.

Poor thing. Is her confidence low?

Perhaps she has had bad experiences learning (slagged off at school or made to feel stupid by her peers) and doesn’t want to repeat so in her head her self defense mechanism is attack just in case she fails as if you don’t do it you can’t fail, attack and avoid instead.

Perhaps a few positive learning experiences would help her get her confidence up. Really easy stuff she can’t fail to get right. And praise for trying and good behaviour.

I got brought up with a ‘you must try your best and succeed as your parents did’ blah blah attitude. It screwed me right up. For decades.

Sometimes doing your best and succeeding are not the same.

I wasn’t allowed that option. I am shit at maths. The pressure nearly drove me over the edge.

Perhaps she just needs a bit of
time and understanding and support, backed up with immediate action regarding rudeness?