Was this inappropriate?

[Someone1987]

I don't know if I am overthinking this or would you class this as inappropriate behaviour from a parent; putting their hand down the back of your trousers and feeling your bare bottom? (Gosh, I'm cringing writing this). I was about 11-12. Nothing was said, it just happened and that was that.

But like.. why did they do it?

If you were much younger, I would have assumed (best case scenario) that it must have been done for a reason. But at 11/12, there's just no reason to do that at all. You'd be perfectly capable of taking care of your own hygiene, etc.

Very inappropriate. Very.

Thank you for your comments. I don't know why they did it. It just happened in the kitchen, I froze, didn't say anything and it was never mentioned again. But I knew it didn't feel right but didn't understand.

Do you remember anything else inappropriate happening? Which parent did it?

It does seem hugely inappropriate to me and strange that that one act occurred and nothing else. Perhaps you've blocked out worse things that have happened.

Do you have a good relationship with your parents?

Sorry, reading my last comment back. It's come across as very unhelpful. It's just very mysterious and I sincerely hope nothing untoward happened to. It must be awful to have such an unexplained and inappropriate memory.

Sorry OP mine was quite insensitive. What i meant was, was there some reason behind it? I don't know what i was thinking to be fair but i saw the age and thought perhaps not 😩

Of course it was inappropriate behaviour. What reason would anyone have for touching their 12 year olds naked bum?

@FTMF30 no need to apologise. Its strange but knowing that others don't think it's right has helped, as I thought am I overthinking it, perhaps it wasn't that bad..I mean it's not like touching...you know where. But I still remember standing there, shocked and confused and it's not the sort of thing you can tell anyone really.
My dad was very angry and my mum emotionally distant and then she died when I was 15. I thought my childhood was ok but I have just had a child and it's seeming odd to me now I'm a parent. My parents had good jobs, we had a house...but with little emotions if that makes sense.

@Oldestchild90s no need to be sorry. There was no reason, I walked in to see them in the kitchen, they did it then I walked out. I just don't get it at all.

What would it even be called, is it sexual?

@Kittykat93 thank you, I didn't think it was right. But when it's a parent you don't want to think bad of them, so it's very confusing.

I am not sure if anything else happened, I kinda blocked out my childhood until I had a child but things are coming back to me. Thank you for making me not feel like I'm overreacting...

You definitely aren't overreacting. I'm sorry that happened to you. It does seem like your parents had some issues and it festered over into a sexual assault to you.
Try not to squash the feelings down or minimise it. It will do no good in the long run. Would it help to talk about it more? Perhaps with a friend or through a listening service. I hope it hasn't affected you too much💐.

@FTMF30 Thank you . I wondered if it would be classed as sexual assault, I guess it does. I thought if a stranger did that to me without my permission I would see it as that. Hard with parents.
I did wonder whether I should talk about it , but I just feel really embarrassed saying it out loud.
Thank you for listening.