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11 year old self harming

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Liloandstitch · 23/04/2020 21:09

During the last year her emotional outbursts have become more frequent and her temper out of control. She hits me and kicks me and today has also grabbed my hair when she was in a rage. She hit me last week after her phone was taken for bad behavior, she actually hurt my shoulder and she was really upset with herself after.
A few days later in another temper she told me and showed me she had self harmed after that incident as she felt so terrible about hurting me, so felt she needed to hurt herself.
She had never been an easy child and struggles with self esteem and friendships. I love my daughter to bits and have asked for a cahms referral however have been told this could take months. My daughter seems down and doesn't want to go out for walks and snaps over any comment I make.
I am a single mum and her dad and I separated when she was little, he was violent to me and has mental health issues. I'm so worried something is really wrong - what can I do mean while waiting for referral. I spend loads of time with her and tell her all the time how loved she is...

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sleepismysuperpower1 · 24/04/2020 14:37

I'm sorry, that's really tough for both her and you. the NSPCC has a page on the website with how to help dc who are self harming (linked here). would she consider talking to someone weekly over the phone? relate (link to website) offer phone and webcam counselling sessions which could be beneficial to her (you will need to pay over the phone, I think you can pay for blocks of sessions). Give her a space away from you to do the counselling session, whether this is in the garden or the car- just somewhere where she knows is private and you won't be able to hear her conversation.

all the best x

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