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Daughter aged 14 with OCD

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India2001 · 31/03/2020 15:03

Hello, I am new to mumsnet, I apologise in advance for any typos, I am rubbish when using my phone.
When my daughter was 7/8 she used to worry about her thoughts and seek reassurance from me each day, this seemed to subside by the age of 9 when she started her periods. She doesn’t like change so I thought it may return when she started secondary school. It didn’t but since Xmas she started worrying
About things that she really didn’t need to and about 6 weeks ago this changed to a disgust of bogies snot at pop, she never has like bogies but neither do any of us, she hasn’t been to school since half term as a girl picked her nose on the bus and her friends had touched their
Noses and then touched desks etc, it has escalated so
Much now to my not
Going out side ( prior to lock down) and her grandparents and my older daughter boyfriend not wanting them in the house incase they have a bogie or
Nose breath- she is obsessed with bogies she convinces her self
Myself or my husband has something up
Our noses even though we check a
Million times a day, for fear of her having a major melt down!!! She won’t let us in her room as that is her safe space and not
Contaminated !! Although now she gets stressed if she is in bed and her foot touched
The cover or the wall etc. She says she is not afraid of germs or being ill
She just doesn’t like bogies snot or poo!!!! She has been referred to CAMHs, gp not really interested, CAMHs have cancelled several times so it has just escalated
More and we also need guidance as we are feeding the obsessions, it is changing her personality Nd if we even try to say look at this app, brush your hair or try some breathing we are the worse
People on the earth!!! She was worse this weekend as she came on and was horrific
To myself as I accidentally itches
My nose in front of her, any one would have thought I had punched her in the face, she told me she hated me, I was a bitch, why would I do that, you know I don’t like it,
We ca t eve. Look
In her direction or where any of her stuff is as she say we nose breath in it or get snot etc on it, yet she has taken to using oart of our
Lick g room as her junk yard and we can’t touch anything in it for fear of a
Melt down and her having a Knox attaché and saying she wants it to stop and doesn’t
Wanna be here !!!!
When this started i did insist the dr do some
Bloods and they did rather reluctantly. A week later another dr rang to say she was severely deficient in vit D and low
In iron. So have strong supplements- I did read a Bit and it did say that vitamins can contribute to cognitive probs same with iron and exacerbate ocd symptoms , although it does take ages for the deficiencies to return to normal. I just wondered if anyone else had encountered this???

I have used our savings and booked her in for an
Intensive weeks therapy done by therapists that have also over come ocd, am hoping this will benefit her as CAMHs aren’t really helping at mo. We can’t really afford this and have had to borrow the money so really hope she can
Go
Through the therapy. I also
Wondered if anyone else had tried Skype intensive therapy for ocd and if it helped ???

Sorry for the long post would really appreciate some
Help from anyone who has / is experiencing this.........Many thanks for reading

OP posts:
candle18 · 31/03/2020 22:21

Can she acknowledge that her worries are not rational? My ds had irrational obsessive type worries where he also had to seek reassurance etc. He was referred to CAHMS but they didn’t see him as a high priority so he was never seen. I got two books from amazon that are really good. They’re by Dawn Heubner and called outsmarting worry and what to do when your brain gets stuck. They try to explain how the fear/worry creates physical feelings which makes the worry seem very real and looks at strategies for managing this. If she was willing to do the books with you, you could start to separate the worries out and get her to decide which one she wants to work on first.

StrawberryJam200 · 27/04/2020 22:55

I strongly recommend (if she'll read fiction?) Am I Normal Yet? by Holly Bourne. It's the story of a 16 yr old who has quite severe OCD. But told in context of her friendships, boys etc. Was a turning point for my DD, 14, when she read this. First time she said she wanted to get help as she didn't want to feel this way any longer.

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