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7yr old getting anxious and upset about not finishing work

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goteam · 28/01/2020 16:10

DD is in yr2 and has always loved school. She has a new teacher this year. The teacher and TA have both told me she is getting very anxious and upset and sometimes what sounds like a panic attack when she doesn't have time to finish her work. It is a very laid back school, they done homework and we aren't pushy so she is putting this on herself. She just wants to finish work but she also gets upset in classified she finishes early with nothing else to do.

The teacher is quite disorganised, often forgets if there is a parent workshop etc. I help out sometimes at school and the teacher gives quite unclear instructions. I think DD needs clear instructions and proper feedback.

I'm not sure how to address this as CAMHS has been mentioned but she is never like this at home. She is a perfectionist and will throw work away if it doesnt meet her standards (which she has set for herself) but doesnt really get upset. She is very bright and loves reading and projects, I'm just not sure if I need to be talking to the school about how they plan classroom tasks, helping DD manage her emotions or looking to get a CAMHS referral.

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goteam · 28/01/2020 16:11

Sorry, meant to say, any advice appreciated

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Abite · 03/02/2020 20:44

My daughter was the same - she went through camhs in the end. You can self refer and the waiting lists are very long.

My advice would be do both. Get help from the school and refer her to camhs. If things improve with just help from the school then brilliant you can come of the camhs waiting list. Also a great book to help is overcoming your childs fears and worries by c cresswell, it's the book that camhs recommends.

It may just be the new teacher and their teaching style but she may need a little extra help to manage her feelings.

Goodluck

goteam · 03/02/2020 21:45

Thanks Abite I'll get the book. DD isn't like it every day but about twice a week the TA reports she has been upset over something. I will look into self referring to CAMHS. Hope your daughter is ok

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