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Child mental health

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Dd ,12 says she has been trying to kill herself

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Doryhunky · 11/12/2019 22:04

She has also said she is thinking about jumping in front of a train. She saw the school counsellor once but didn’t go back and doesn’t want to talk to anyone. School ends tomorrow and I presume therapy waitlists are as long for Children as they are for adults. What help and how should i access it?

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RJnomore1 · 11/12/2019 22:04

GP emergency appointment

Don’t mess with this.

SexlessBoulderBelly · 11/12/2019 22:06

GP. Let’s talk together service.

Don’t um and ah, get her help.

turkeyontheplate · 11/12/2019 22:08

I took my suicidal teenager to A&E and stayed there until he was admitted overnight for an emergency assessment. As we all know, the system is stripped to the bone right now so unfortunately you have to be the squeaky wheel if you want any help for your child. Be persistent.

meow1989 · 11/12/2019 22:18

If your child is stating that they wish to kill themselves and you do not feel that you are able to keep them safe until tomorrow then a and e is absolutely the appropriate place to go.

If you decide to wait for a gp appointment then think about how you can keep her safe at home - does she have any access to medication, sharp implements, things that could be used to tie a ligature for example. I would also consider staying in her room with her tonight.

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Doryhunky · 11/12/2019 22:21

Thank you. I will take her to the GP tomorrow. She doesn’t want to talk to anyone and I am worried that the GP will just put her on a wait list.

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paddingtonbear1 · 11/12/2019 22:31

We took our DD to a&e, she was admitted overnight for assessment. She still goes to HYMS (our equivalent of CAHMS) appointments every few weeks. She was self-harming, we removed all access to medicines and sharps in the home (DH gave his friend his chef's knife, we dare not have it anywhere in the house!)
DD also slept in our room for a while.

Oly4 · 11/12/2019 22:34

Tell the GP you do not want to be put on a list and that you need emergency help from child mental health services. If they don’t do anything then go to a&e. This is an emergency. I’m so sorry you’re going through this

cakeandchampagne · 11/12/2019 22:38

I would take this very seriously and
take her to A&E.

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Doryhunky · 11/12/2019 22:39

Dd has massive anxiety about separation so admission would really distress her

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jackstini · 11/12/2019 22:52

So sorry you are going through this OP
I wouldn't risk waiting. Depending on if she's in bed, either A&E now or emergency GP appointment first thing tomorrow. Do not let them put you off

turkeyontheplate · 11/12/2019 22:54

Doryhunky you can stay with her. I didn't leave my son's side at any point, no way would I have left him in hospital. Sending you a big hug

JustASmallTownCurl · 11/12/2019 23:00

I think they let you stay with her OP, I'm so sorry you and her and DH are all facing this.

I've been her in the situation and all I can tell you is that no matter what she says now if she resists support, she will be grateful for it and in future will realise any tough decisions you make (eg hospital admission, CAHMs plan of action) were from a place of love

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Doryhunky · 11/12/2019 23:00

Thank you. Should have try to find a hospital with a children’s a and e?

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Toddlerteaplease · 11/12/2019 23:05

I think you need to go to A&E, she will be seen by the crisis team and they will arrange follow up. (I'm a peadiatric nurse, and never suggest A&E. but she needs to be seen ASAP)

Toddlerteaplease · 11/12/2019 23:06

Yes you can absolutely stay with her in hospital.

SukiPutTheEarlGreyOn · 11/12/2019 23:06

I’m so sorry that you are all going through this. It’s unimaginably stressful but the positive thing is that she has confided in you. All the advice here is spot on. Due to the wait time we ended up going private in a similar situation. If that’s an option we found this site helpful in locating a therapist
www.bacp.co.uk/
The Young minds website was also useful. You will get through this and now that she has opened up to you it is the first step in getting the help and support she needs. Thinking of you both

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Doryhunky · 11/12/2019 23:18

Thank you. When I go to a and e what should i say? I am really worried the stress will be too much for her and we will be sitting in a waiting room for ages with her getting agitated.

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Doryhunky · 12/12/2019 05:55

Update. I spoke to a psychiatric crisis line at a hospital
And they explained i should go to
A and E and ask for psychiatric liaison and that all the g p would do is send me to a and e. Thank you to everyone.

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oohnicevase · 12/12/2019 06:03

Does she have any medication? She obviously needs some . I grew up with an anxious , depressed, suicidal sister with severe ocd and with medication it did get better .

TheMostHappy · 12/12/2019 06:03

I'm sorry to hear your daughter is struggling like this. I hope that she gets the help she needs quickly. Sending positive thoughts.

AdalindMeisner · 12/12/2019 06:08

A and E now. That is the advice given to me by CAMHs (i have a dd who has tried mote than once). She needs admitting until CAMHs can assess.

We also were turned away from CAMHs the first time we tried fir a referral (after initial assessment) , do not just accept that push for her to be seen regularly.

AdalindMeisner · 12/12/2019 06:16

Just say exactly that she has said she is planning to attempt suicide and that she has said how she is going to do it. That yiu fear that you cant keep her safe (we were told if we coukd keep her safe then she could be at home and they wouldn't do a full assessment). She needs A ans E, there is no where else to get immediate treatment. She will likely get agitated there and thete will be a wait likeky but it is the safest place fir her.

JustASmallTownCurl · 12/12/2019 06:19

Will be thinking of you and DD today, let us know if you need any help or advice or links to service etc as I'm always amazed at the MN collective wisdom on things like this

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Doryhunky · 12/12/2019 09:43

In a and e now waiting to
See cahms

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AlexaShutUp · 12/12/2019 09:49

I hope you get seen soon, OP.

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