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How persuade Y8 boy to see counsellor in school

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IHateWashingUp2 · 16/10/2019 22:36

My DS, 12, has anxieties and insecurities. He seems almost depressed at times and used to talk about it not being worth living. Recognises (sometimes anyway) that his state isn’t great, but believes no one can help him. He might be persuaded to talk to the counsellor at school BUT he can’t bear the thought of people knowing he was regularly going out of class to see someone “like some weirdo” (his words). Of course I have tried talking to him about how different he could feel about everything in his life if he allowed someone to help him, also how it doesn’t matter what everyone else thinks, also how there will be other boys in his year getting help - he just hasn’t witnessed it.
Any ideas of how to persuade DS to get help?

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IHateWashingUp2 · 17/10/2019 17:59

Anyone? Thanks

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Isaididont · 17/10/2019 18:03

Hmm I can see why he might feel embarrassed about going. Not because it is embarrassing, but just because everything’s embarrassing at that age. Do the school have any ideas? Can he say vaguely it’s meetings he’s being made to go to? Can he pretend it’s a music lesson?? Not that I advocate lying! Anyway I really hope he gets the help he needs...

IHateWashingUp2 · 17/10/2019 21:39

Thanks. He has music lessons already so that doesn’t work. Do you mean he could pretend he’s not going willingly? The no that would be quite hard to keep up week after week. I was hoping others may gut have had similar problems and have found solutions. Yes I could ask school for advice.

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IHateWashingUp2 · 17/10/2019 22:28

*Think that would quite hard
*may have had (don’t know why gut came into it!)

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