Hi, I need some help/advice/handholding, I don't really know what I need. Just to vent maybe.
DS1 is 14 and in year 10. He has never liked school (hardly unusual) and has very few friends. He's always been quiet and sensitive. He's August born so young in the year. He is NC with his Dad for various reasons.
That's the background.
Over the last year or so he has an increasing number of days off school, mainly because he's had stomach aches/headaches. I suspected it was the physical manifestation of anxiety and suggested such to the school. They told me it wasn't anxiety. They had also assessed him for ASD and processing disorder and told me both came back as 'borderline' so no diagnosis could be made.
This has completely escalated over the last couple of months and he is now not attending school at all. He will be crying and physically shaking at the thought of going. The same has happened a couple of times when going for days out at the weekend as well.
We have had an inital meeting with the attendance panel and they have warned us that if his attendance doesn't improve I will be taken to court and prosecuted. The good thing that came from this was a referral for a primary mental health worker. They did an assessment and agreed he has anxiety and are going to work with him.
Obviously this has placed massive stress on me. I am already off work with stress and depression.
I just don't know what to do. I want my happy boy back. I want him to have the life I always dreamed of for him. I'm scared I'll get a fine or sent to prison. I don't want to lose my children, that's my worst nightmare.
Sorry. I don't even know what I want by posting here. I just need to get it out I think. Sorry it's so long. I was trying to include as much info as possible.