I have 3 little boy who have seen a lot, mum banging her head off the wall, mum cutting herself, abusing alcohol, fighting with neighbors and so on...
She has a interm residence untill we have bar reporter I am looking for full custody.
When myself and my ex seperarted in October I reported my concerns at first to the health visitor I.e... head banging, self harming, alcohol and drugs and hitting the kids on the head and 1 year old falling brown the stairs. The health visitor has built some sort of connection with mum so told me these are not concerns for her to deal with.
Come November I had to take the kids because of her care for them.
Oldest 2 were referred to the cahms within 5 minutes by the doctor after I explained mum's behaviour.
As my oldest is 5 he was accepted and the second oldest was referred back to the health visitor. I contacted the health visitor to ask what her plan was for him and she said he is fine and there is nothing wrong with him. I asked for a referral to the pediatrician and was told to go back and ask the gp which I did. It was the same doctor who agreed he could but will ask the health visitor for her opinion first and call me in 2 days.
Six days later my little boy was back at the doctors, it was a different doctor this time and she choose to refer him to the pediatrician.
There mum told me the doctor said she hasn't seen a little boy act this way before.
There mum also told me that he is really under weight which I have been seeing for a few weeks now.
She then called me back an hour later to say the health visitor is coming out tomorrow as the doctor called her to find out his weight and he has went from 17kg to 13kg.. health visitor said she must have gotten it wrong.
Last week I submitted a formal complaint for indirect discrimination to the medical practice manager. Noting that the health visitor has belittled me as a father and under mined my parental rights. She cancelled a health visitor appointment I had booked after my 1 year old fell all the way down a set of stairs while mum smoked a joint in the bathroom. It was the 2 year old that opened the gate.
How she hasn't been feeding them properly and after being told to feed my wee boy lots more she gave him a garlic bread for breakfast because she was in a hurry. I pointed out how she neglects them and health visitor wasn't listening.
The manager of the practice called me and said the health visitor is NHS and with my permission bcan she pass this on to them as this may be a ongoing thing, she also said as I mentioned one of her doctors she has read this and contacted social services.
They can't tell me there reasons why.
NHS has acknowledged complaint and is going to investigate stage 2. Maybe the doctors had the same concerns I have been trying to tell everyone about..
So the big question is... Do I explain all mum has done Infront of the kids so they get the help they need? Oldest is possibly ADHD, second youngest is same but shows signs of depression and lethargy.
I really feel the pediatrician needs to be aware in private what is going on.
When I called outpatients the note from the go said losing weight after a bug his brothers have recovered from. Inform father of appointment.
Any advice please.