I'm in tears now as it happened a few hours ago.
Dd came home from school and came into them kitchen whilst I was cooking tea. She looked at it and jokingly said I give u approval... I laughed. She walked straight back out, I shouted to her to leave her phone on the kitchen table and go tidy her room (as still not tidied since Sunday). She has a cob on whilst it's normal as no phone. She came back and start having a go at me saying she wishes I stop nagging about her room.. So I said get it done first time and I won't nag you....then she start bringing stuff up out of the blue (again and again as happened A few times) that i don't care about her and im more interested in my two younger ones which it's not true.. Even my 10 Yr old said that as she heard everything. My 14 Yr old constantly say I don't care or talk to her which I do.. But she wants me to have a full random conversations with her (her words) about something... Which I was struggling to find anything to talk about as today I was working in school work placement and yesterday I was at college.... But there was nothing for me to talk to anyone about it...but I do ask her how's her day... What she been up to......but she doesn't to talk like that so I asked her what do u want to talk about she doesn't know either.
I took my 14 Yr old out last week to cinema to treat her and for the past year I try my best to take her out once a month to Costa, cinema, clothes shopping.... But nothing never is good for her as she is not happy about it. Its like she wants my full on attention and forget everyone else. She start self harming abit last year and had counselling till she stopped going as she didn't want to talk to a random stranger.
She got no hobbies since she got her phone 2 yrs ago... She is not interested in anything apart from her phone. I tried to bring up hobbies and see if anything likes... Photography... But she won't go out to be seen taking pics, so I said do in house and yard for now. My other two got a few hobbies... My 14 Yr old dd did have a few hobbies till she got her phone which I thought that's normal as she's that age.
She told me and her dad that she is bi at Xmas so we said OK. She doesn't go out as much as her friends lives 20 mins drive away. Sometimes she is with me which I'm sure she want to be with her friends.
I was taking my 10 Yr old to her football training tonight and I said ill talk when I'm back and she calmed down... She said I don't trust myself.... My 10 Yr old was in tears...
I'm constantly bouncing off the walls trying to help her but she doesn't want help. I tell her I love her like I do with all of my kids but she made me feel like a shit mum...
I've arranged to speak to her aunt as she won't talk to us about what ever is up with her. Maybe it's me...
She is in year 9 atm.