Nephew is 11. Been excluded from mainstream school since age 8. Been in 3 specialist schools since and also excluded from them.
He had an autism and ADHD diagnosis last year. Last school and CAHMS have said he has PDA which is a type of autism.
He is violent towards everyone particularly his mum, who is a single parent. He is uncontrollable unless he is physically restrained which has been resorted to as he has either risked harming himself or someone else.
My sisters house frequently has no windows, no doors and her car is also targeted. The police are frequently called, be either dsis or by neighbours. The police attend and help in the short term, but he has started bolting when they turn up, which is obviously a risk as well. Which makes my sister reluctant to call and leaves her more vulnerable. He is as tall as her, and probably weighs more. It's not like dealing with a normal 11 year old. She has suffered several injuries including a cut to her head, an arm being twisted and an injury to her neck.
They are currently waiting to see if a funding package is available for him for a specialist part residential school.
SS have made dsis aware that they won't be able to help.unless she 'signs him over'. They have said that because of the issues he won't be able to go into foster care in a family, it will be a home and will be for 'normal' dcs, not one with the issues dn has.
Dsis is at the end of her tether. She can not take much more physically or emotionally. She is frightened of him now and its only going to get worse as he gets stronger.
Is there anywhere else she can go for help? So far she has tried CAHMs, SS, the police, the LEA, her GP and A and E and the specialist children's hospital A and E when he was having a meltdown and they couldn't stop him. In that incident my other nephew, who is 20, 6ft and fit ended up with a torn knee ligament trying to keep nephew safe in the car.
My 2 baby great nieces have been given a child protection order by SS this week, and niece has been told they can only see nephew or visit his house if there is another adult male present to restrian nephew if he has a meltdown, to protect them from harm.
It's absolutely right that they be protected but no one is protecting or helping my dsis.
No one is protecting my dnephew from himself.
Does anyone have any advice for us? Is there anywhere else we can try for help? If she thought surrendering him to thecare system would help she would be he will last2 minutes in a normal childrens home before he either bolts or hurts someone else, potentially a child.
He needs secure, residential care with the right support. But she has no idea how to get to that. If this school place doesn't happen then fuck knows what she will do.