My dd is self harming and has been for a year I think. It has got worse over the last few months and a couple weeks ago she showed me a really deep cut on her arm that she was worried was infected. It wasn't, but it lead me to contact camhs who saw her within 5 days.
She refused to attend the appointment until the morning it was on, then reluctantly came. Said it did nothing to help (to be fair it was just an assessment) and has pretty much told me she doesn't want any help. She doesn't want to stop cutting. She believes she is in control of it and could stop if she wanted to. I have read stuff where she says she hates anyone 'caring'.
It is so hard. She is a troubled, angry teen who so desperately needs help.
But what can I do when she refuses to engage? She would not sign consent at camhs for either her school or her father to know she went. So it's down to me. Which is fine but I am starting to feel real anxiety every day and my heart is palpating ALL the time. I have friends and parents I talk to but really, all I want is for her to access help.
Anyone else had this?