8 year old boy rude behaviour..help

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Our son has been over the last year back chatting teachers, running from then and making wrong choices at school. Over last week he has kicked out at home by swearing at us , his parents, hitting my wife, amount other stuff. We stopped shouting at him makes things worst instead staying claim and talking him round.., he looses things he likes with his wrong choices. Outside of this he is a very loving boy, polite, fun and mad, but when he explodes he really does...sometimes without a trigger. He does suffer from anxiety but we are hurting, wondering what do to help fix him.. almost want to curl up and hide from the problem. He gets sent home from school for bad chioces sometimes. His family life is great he says.., but maybe we have been abit soft and not strict enough with him, but we have a 14yr who we brought up same way...no worries at all. I'm just wondering has anybody been through stuff like this with a 8 year old explosive boy. School.iscworkingbwithbus but might want to send him to extra provison school who deal with kids with problems...but we feel this might be to extreme and make him worst. Any advice please would bev sooo welcome. Thank you. Lhea. Ps. Sorry for spelling errors...it's late..x

I’m new to parenting (step mam) but have been involved in youth work for 18 years and have had a few boys with this kind of behaviour over the years, it usually stemmed from frustration.
There have been various causes from a need for glasses to autism that once identified and addressed improved the behaviour.
If the school are offering a move to a school with extra provisions accept it and quickly, I have seen parents struggle for years to get their children the help they need.
The more help your son gets now the better his long term outcomes will be.

Thanks for advice, we have just learnt he has emotional problems..in that his emotions are that of a 5 year old..so emotionally he's behind...his learning is spot on. They keep restraining him at school for stuff they think yes good Ng to do...just just blows him up angry them the nadty side comes out ..he's sorry afterwards...all this really only happens at school which have let him down over the years so much with various things...even been bullied. My worry is that these extra provison schools are full of bad kids who might run off on my son. He's not naughty and do loving etc.....but could get drawn the wrong way with other kids who have problems and are maybe naughty socially. I'm all for helping our son but worry this schooling might lead him further down a wrong path...I really want better help in a mainstream school... Has anyone used these extra provision schools for a while then there kiddie returns to mainstream....really need some urgent advice....thanks..x

Does he have a diagnosis? Sounds like adhd to me! He won’t get a place in a specialist school without a diagnosis/ EHCP/ input from health professionals unless you pay for a private school

Is a learning support worker not a possibility at his current school?
Extra provision schools aren't full of bad kids they are full of kids who need the extra help these schools provide.
Returning to mainstream school is always an option later if you feel he is able to cope with it.

If current school is letting him down, get him out of there? Take any help you can find, early intervention is better than letting the situation drag on. Any help from GP, camhs?

Our 8 year old son has an ASD diagnosis. He does get angry outbursts and can get very rude, but mainly at home, not much at school thankfully. His behaviour got progressively worse recently until we completely banned video games last month and TV time for him is now bring extremely controlled. He is much calmer now since he stopped playing video games and spends more time doing quiet things like drawing or reading.