Hello,
Please be gentle, I'm extremely emotional and upset...
Feel at the end of my tether and don't know where to turn. Been having problems with DS age 5 since he started preschool but problems getting worse throughout reception and now in Y1 he's heading for permanent expulsion if his behaviour continues.
Started off in preschool as non compliance, hitting other children and not listening. Reception it escalated to more physical violence, non compliance and lashing out in anger. Now in Y1 he's basically out of control in class and the school are being very supportive of him and us and trying a variety of tactics /strategies. He's seeing an EP who said he's an intelligent and very capable boy but his emotional literacy is poor. He's very volatile and unpredictable and the slightest thing can set him off into a rage. When he's calm, he's a lovely, kind, empathic, caring boy. It's distressing to see how rapidly he can just flip. GP has referred him to Mental Health and we're also taking him for CBT which we're paying for privately ourselves.
So today, i walked him into class and he was happily chatting to me and other children. Gets into the class and starts swinging his coat around, hitting the other kids with it. I asked him not to as this would hurt someone. He then kicked me and then hit the teacher with his coat. All children stood watching him as well as some parents who were standing nearby. I felt very embarrassed. Then he said to me "don't go, stay mummy" and i said i had to go to work but would be back later. Then he screamed "I hate you, you ugly fat pig" in front of everyone. It fell silent and I just could have died. I quickly walked out and cried all the way back to the car.
He's a very much loved, well cared for boy. He wants for nothing and has a loving, stable home life. His dad and i dote on him as do grandparents etc. He's never been exposed to anything remotely violent or anything like that. Has a good diet, sleeps well. Very active and does extracurricular activities which he absolutely loves. We are just at a loss with how he is and what more can we do??? He was a good birthweight and developed well with no problems. Trying to think of absolutely anything that may be causing this.
He loves going to school and runs into class like a rocket to see his friends. I just don't know why today he suddenly flipped and started to be aggressive. God knows what the other parents think.
His teacher said he's quite dominating by nature and likes it all on his terms in class and if asked to do something he doesn't want to do he can blow up like a volcano. It seems like when the slightest pressure is applied to him in class he erupts. Although he is academically very able if he applied himself.
He's now on his 5th exclusion since March.
We love him endlessly so are desperate!!!
Any help or advice much appreciated!!!