daughter being bullied at school

[wildsummerdreams]

Hi all, my daughter is being bullied at school, by 2 other girls in her class. In the past, last year, one of them asked her to bring money into school. I talked to the teacher and it seemed to get better. But now these two girls are constantly putting down my daughter (emotionally) and calling her stupid, laughing at her and trying to hurt her. My daughter is becoming insecure, nervous and anxious, asking me to homeschool her everyday. The other girls also talk a lot about sex with great level of detail, which my daughter finds disturbing. We're talking about children 9-10.

What would you do in my case? Is it reasonable for me to ask for these girls to be moved to another class? What if the teacher or headteacher refuse or can't do anything? I'm thinking of changing her school, but it's a shame because she also has friends there.

Any advice greatly appreciated. Thanks.

First I would probably ask to speak to a safeguarding person about the children talking about sex in great detail and just get a note made of the conversations your daughter has heard.

I don't think the school will move the girls to another class being realistic. As that will mean moving two other children and unsettling them and wont help in lunchtimes/breaks when I imagine most of this goes on. There is a limit as to what can happen in class.

I don't know hat can be done - a lot are going in for restorative justice at the moment, where the girls all sit together and your daughter explains how she feels, which sounds dreadful - but did kind of work when my son was bullied. (but his bully also got a fixed term exclusion and two internal exclusions)

Another might that might help is the school nominating a buddy to look out for your daughter

some whole class stuff on social skills and identifying bulling behaviour and what to do if you are being bullie

a lot of people say to change schools. It can be really hard to deal with/get it dealt with.

Good luck

Thanks, I think I will do that. Who is the safeguarded, is that a teacher?

Just ask for them at the office and they will know who you mean