Needing advice stuck

[mpeters82]

Hi,

I am like not sure what to do going out my mind with all of this.

Before half term I met with senco and she had said he really struggling in the classroom. They have to sit him away from table he constantly moving in. He also sitting on chair leaning back. She then says would I consider medication.

So I have been thinking about it but even more so after this week.

I went in about hearing that child in my son's year has witnessed my son being bullies. So I was upset as him and this girl seem to be having a lot of issues. I have had parents of this girl come up to us. I spoke to school before about this but it was put on my son. But now someone came forward and they investigated it it turns out yes he being bullied and this being taken seriously. Although head mistress didn't seem to like admitting that he was being bullied as she has alway says his adhd causing him lose to friendships.

Between the two issues wondering about secondary school. I wonder if he will cope. His education is suffering and with his peers. He no one to physically hurt children but his defense is name calling. I have tried explaining not to do this but do it positive way.

Worried about medication and side effects. Can you give advice?

How long do they trial for?

Have you discussed adhd with your child? As think he starting to realize what he has and how it's affecting him.

I think I had said about concentration and focus as school. How do yoi fully explain this?

Do you tell your child your thinking of putting them on meds and why?

I just need lots advice my head going to explode as a parent who really does not want my son on medication I know it has help a lot of children. I know it helps them at school.

At home my son was getting better but he has been playing up since he went back to school a bit.

I talking to his father tommorow if he says no to medication what do I do? In a way if he said yes I be like shocked but like scared to go ahead.

I have told the school to that I am thinking about it.

I been told he won't get Ehcp as he not tried medication.

My son starts secondary september and stressing.

Help please

You have the same worries I had before putting DS on medication. I was so worried that it would change him. But honestly, it's the best thing we've ever done.

He's on a fairly low dose and has been for around 2 years now. They started on a tiny dose and reviewed him every couple of months, gradually increasing the dose. We've discovered he has an underlying tic disorder so if he goes any higher than the strength he's on now it brings out the tics. So he will stay on the low dose for the foreseeable future.

He takes the tablets about an hour before school and they wear off at around 4o'clock. They don't change him, he still has the same personality, is still hyper but definitely less so. He says it helps his brain feel calm and he is able to concentrate for much longer periods at a time.

The only side effect he has is loss of appetite. He hardly ever eats lunch at school. But we just make sure he has a big breakfast, snack straight after school and then a big dinner. We give him a break from the tablets during school holidays and some weekends so he tends to gain weight during those times.

He knows he has ADHD, I think it has helped him understand why he felt different.

It's a really personal decision, but I am honestly so pleased we gave it a go.

Good luck.

Apply for ehcp yourself? I don't think medication is a requirement beforehand.

Medication was the best thing ever for our child. Allowed them to participate in learning and integrate into the social aspect of school. There have been absolutely no negatives and we are a decade on from when they started on it.

I thought about applying for ehcp myself.

I just been in kitchen and he was chopping up peppers etc. I am think he so good.

I know they say every environment different. But school he not good.

He has his moments but for me he so much better.