Hi, new user here, didnt want to use fb as theres alot of biased oppinions there. I need some clear advise from other mums who dont know me at all.

A bit of background on my son. Hes almost 4 (in april) at his 2 year review no major concerns were raised other than his lack of speech, he didnt talk at all by 2 years old, they suggested nursery which i did do, he was there from 2 years old until the summer term after his 3rd birthday so 18months, they helped alot and its the nursery attached to my older kids school so a familiar place he was used to going to. He liked going but id weekly (and still often am 2 years on) called in over him hurting or hitting a child either on purpose or by just being too rough. His speech came on a little but they struggled massivly to understand him. He moved up to the schools foundation 1 unit for half a day each day in september 2017. In november i was called in for a meeting, they told me he was behind in counting and other areas but that he was making some progress, they asked my permission to refer him to speech and language therapy as theyre still struggeling to understand him and hes becoming very fustrated and hitting out when hes not understood. I said yes of course that was fine, i understand him but even other close family members struggle, i sometimes do but not often. End of jan yhis year we got our first app for speech therapy but couldnt go as son was very unwell. Its been rearranged, last tueaday his teachers asked if they could have a meeting with me to discuss his progress later that week and if i could get his hearing checked. I said yes. This is when i started to wonder why. Ive never had meetings like this with my older 2 kids.

I went to the meeting and they sat me down and said that they think maybe he needs his hearing checked coz he constantly shouts, complains he cant hear things and has the sound on things turned up loud, and somtimes i think hes ignoring me but he might just not be hearing me now i think about it. Anyway they also said he still is struggling quite abit with numbers, hes almost 4 and can not count to 5, if im honest he cant get past 2. He either says 1, 2 lots n lots. Or 1,2,1,2,1,2,1,2,1,2. The teachers also said that theyve noticed he doesnt name animals properly. For exapmle if you show him a duck he will point and say quack, you tell him no its a duck it says quack he still says quack. Same for other animals. They also said theyve noticed some fixated behaviours on some things, atm its dinosaurs, it used to be bin trucks, before that motorbikes. He sometimes takes the toys from school he likes such as their dinosaurs, but it used to be motorbikes ect, or he would insist on taking his in with him, they also noted his certaun ways with clothes, few months ago all the tags out of his clothes had to be cut out coz he would pull at clothes crying about the tag, and it feeling funny. Now its socks, ive given up trying to get him to wear them now tbh, he moans about the seam in them and will just kick widly until his shoes are off and he will take his socks off.

Another thing his teachers expressed was is comunication with his peers needs work, he wants to join in with kids but often barges into a game and is rough, the other kids dont want to do that and he doesnt quite get it. Though they did say he does emjpys the role playing areas (we have them at home and he does play with his siters at home with their toy kitchens ect) theyve told me theyve been taking him out of class and working on sharing him and a teacher, how to offer it and ask for it nicely instead of taking, then hes asked to pick a class mate to join them, he often picks the same boy. He still needs help with it tho theyve said) hes been having one to one in school since he moved up in september.

Theyve asked my permission to have someone else come in and work with him if his speech and language and hearing test dont explain why hes behind in things. They said some letters like initials but i cant for the life of me remember what they was coming in to help him. They asked if i had any questions and i just asked them outright "apart from the speech thing are you teachers questioning if theres somthing else coz i just assumed he was abit naughty at times and his clothing and dinsaours was just his little personality. But obviously you see more kids than me even tho im his mum you see it more type of thing" they replied with "it is a possibility that we would explore after hes had his hearing tested and some speech therapy, were not saying it is or it isnt but its a avenue we can go down if it comes to it"

Im starting to think that they think theres somthing up with him but dont want to say it to me or if theyre not sure yet.