My toddler might have autism?

[Lovelysolorio97]

So hello my daughter is 2.5 years old. I kinda knew from the get go sje had some sort of delay starting off when she was in the womb really. She was head down and all of a sudden moved head up when i was 7 months pregnant. She didnt move much as times i would drink tons of cold water just to make sure she was there. The day she was born i had only held her for 3 minutes as she was taken promptly because she couldnt breathe. When i finally saw her again she was on oxygen and i had a specialist coming up to me saying i think your daughter has turners syndrome. She had a low hair line seamless creases low set ears wide set nipples and inward thumbs but no web neck or lymphedema which i heard is one big indicator they ran genetic testing but it came out negative so they assumed she was just weird looking lol. They did give me splints to keep her thumbs out but they were a fail simce her hands were so tiny. Fast forward 3 months she wasnt holding her head up. Wasnt cooperating in tummy time i would put her on tummy time and she would just lay flat even when i tried to intrigue her with a toy. So thats when specialist came in again they tried to get her to look up yet she did the same. She started lifting her head at 5 months. 9 months when she got balance to look around without her head having to be held. At 12 months she wasnt holding her bottle. She never slept well since she was born . the most she slept was 9 hrs. 2 hr nap time and she was basically in and out of sleep at night. I would stay up breastfeeding for hours because she woukd fall asleep and then wake up when i tucked away. I took her to the pediatrics many times for the sleeping issues all the same thing she just needs to adjust and gave me tons of things to try to get her to sleep. And trust me i did everything. Dark rooms to lullibies to rocking to heavy blankets and "myths" nothing worked. I had to stop letting her take naps so she could have a full sleep cycle at night. 10 hrs vs 7 was better than anything. She also had twitching problems but that went away at 8 months. She didnt hold her bottle until she was 1.5 years old. She did not crawl rather just bounce on her bottom. She really skipped crawling and went straight to walking at 17 months. I noticed she didnt really laugh or smile. But i assumed she was just a serious baby. What i found strange was she liked picking at peoples eyes her eyes or anyone eyes. And she has this fetish for hair she needs to play with hair. For example if shes angry i need to hold her and she'll calm down after playing with my hair. I told the pediatrician they told me not to worry she would grow out of it. She never did. I was cincernedthat she was 2 and not talking. She was babbling but not talking. The drs told me it was nothing to be worried about if she was babbling mean she would talk soon. But i did sign up for a specialist to come see her and she noticed delays. She was more help than the pediatricians. Now at 2.5 year old. I finally got a referral so she can get checked for autism. Her signs: flapping hands. She walks on her tip toes. She gets frustrated with loud noises. She will not play with other kids. She cannot stand car seats. She picks at her eyes a lot. Needs to play with hair to calm down. She will not listen to her name for the most part. And when i repeat her name she get so angry. She gets frustrated out of no where and will just throw herself. She hits herself when shes frustrated. She doesnt know more than 5 words only expressions. Like wow ohh ouch. Taking her to store its so difficult she will cry throw herself kick hit. She doesnt understand when i tell her to do something. For example i tell her hand me your toy she wont do it. The only thing she understands is the word no. And its not easy saying no to her. I dont know what to do anymore

[KarlosKKrinkelbeim]

Hi. I’m sorry you are feeling so upset. If you post in special needs you will get lots of helpful replies. My ds presented with similar issues at the same age as your dd and the SN posters helped me so much.
Sounds like a few signs are present and you need to be getting the right specialist advice, and it sounds like you’ve got a referral. So you are doing the right thing.

[Lovelysolorio97]

Ok thanks. And yeah its frustrating because.the pediatrician had told me the behavioral issues where due to a lack of sleep. I sought a 2nd opinion because there is an underlying issue why she's not sleeping. At least that what i believe.