Residential psychiatric care

[Loveache]

I am wondering why an 11 year old boy would be in residential psychiatric care for over a year.
My ex, about 20 years ago. It just seems like such a long time to be in hospital at any age. Any ideas?

None of your business

There is surely only one reason, he’s mentally unwell and he requires long term inpatient care. What more would you need to know?

(Or he was mentally unwell)

We can all make a guess, but none of us know. I'm not sure there's much point in speculating

I think I'm going to try book someone to talk to about that man and how the aftermath affected me. We had been in a ltr, living together, marriage track etc when he ended it suddenly and it turned out there had been an affair. The deliberate and pointless cruelty he exhibited to me afterwards which included but was by no means limited to stalking, harassment, lying to cause bother at my work and gaslighting is something I've really wondered about, and it's changed how I trust people. It really was like a different, malevolent personality. I guess I'm just wondering what was so wrong at 11 that he couldn't be in the family home for such a very long time. It's hard to articulate- wondering if I missed something I should have seen.

Its irrelevant and won't help you deal with how he behaved towards you.
Its a distraction and unhelpful to look for reasons why he was abusive.

I cannot see how dwelling on 'why' is going to help you to continue to move away from this man.

My ex husband who I had children with was much like that and had never spent a day in any kind of care/hospital.

You will never be able to unpick His life - I would just concentrate on healing yours