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9 year old attacking me

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AmberCurtain · 23/09/2017 09:56

What is the best way to deal with this? We are waiting to be assessed but in the me in time what do I do?
This morning she was being really rude to me, telling me I'm lazy because I'm in bed with a virus. She wanted me to do something that she was perfectly capable of doing and when I refused she became really nasty......stamping her feet and shrieking at me. I took her tablet from her and told her when she calmed down and apologised she could have it back....she then began hitting and kicking me. It was hurting me. I was crying because of this and she carried on. All I could do was shield myself with a large hardback book.

I don't know what to do when she gets like this.....I often end up hurting her (unintentionally) when I defend myself which then sends her into overdrive and she takes the kicking/punching/biting up a notch.
Ds then waded in and whacked her because he gets really upset when she does this and she stopped.......I managed to get her to calm down and we talked.....she apologised but she said it's my fault because I annoy her. I have arthritis in my joints so when this happens it can be incredibly painful. I just don't know how to stop her when she gets like this.

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AmberCurtain · 25/09/2017 10:23

bump

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lb111 · 03/10/2017 13:59

Hi. Sounds like a really difficult situation for you. My kids have high pyrrole which can cause them to be demanding, aggressive and unreasonable (mostly i think labelled oppositional defiance disorder). You might want to google 'pyrrole disorder' or 'pyroluria' and see if it resonates. There are a wide-range of symptoms which not everyone experiencing this displays. There are also distinct up and down periods of certain behaviours or moods. It tends to run in families so you may be struggling with this in yourself, other children, their father etc. This may be totally unrelated to your situation but thought worth suggesting - let me know if you want more info. Sending you best wishes and good luck

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