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10 year old son attempted suicide.

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SonnyFrankieSadie · 13/09/2017 17:37

Hi been looking everywhere for some support and I know there will be some for me after everything is sorted for him and that's exactly how I want it. I'm just trying to seek something for me to keep me going for a little bit.

At this stage I am not too sure what was going on for him to do it but I feel like I have really failed him, you always think you'd know if something was so wrong and serious enough to make him feel like this.

He's currently in PICU and I just feel like each second of the day takes about 10 minutes. It really isn't nice and just needed to write this to someone or something before my head explodes.

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TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 13/09/2017 17:42

Oh, poor you. Hugs.
When things were at their worst with my ds I went straight to my gp and basically said 'I am not coping, please can I have some antidepressants?' and he said yes and it helped, just to get me through the worst few months.
Is that the kind of support you need or do you basically need to talk and be listened to?
You haven't failed. People of all ages can be good at hiding what is going on inside them. Xxx

Llamacorn · 13/09/2017 17:42

Oh my goodness, what a worrying time for you Flowers
My dd who is 10 had some serious mental health issues and started self harm and threatened suicide, all due to bullying which we had no idea about. Do you know if there is any route cause for him to do this? Luckily offending children have been removed from her school, she is in a new class and we finally had the support from school, whilst having psychiatry input and meetings with Camhs.
In my naivety, I hadn't realised that's children could have such overwhelming feelings at such a young age. I can empathise with how you are feeling right now, but please don't blame yourself. Will he allow you to cuddle him?
If you need to talk, you are welcome to pm me.
Please take care, and well wishes to your ds.

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SonnyFrankieSadie · 13/09/2017 21:08

Thank you both for your kind words. I'm not really sure what kind of support I need. I have no idea what has caused him to take this route, he has always seemed so happy and confident. Yes, I cuddle him and stroke him :( he is having help with his breathing, but I hope he still knows I'm here.

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MyBrilliantDisguise · 13/09/2017 21:09

This is everyone's worst nightmare. I'm so sorry. Your poor son.

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ImNotAFlower · 13/09/2017 21:17

Sending a huge amount of love and support your way.
Try to eat and sleep when you can, you have to take care of you, to be able to tale care of him Flowers

littlebird7 · 13/09/2017 21:17

I am so sorry you are going through this. Do you have any friends/family with you? You need someone there to be with you and hold you.
It is incredibly difficult, please do not think of blame. Just focus on your son.

Gallymum1 · 13/09/2017 21:20

I'm so sorry you are going through this x x just wanted to send a hug x x x x your poor little man x x sending strength and love your way x x x x

DancingLedge · 13/09/2017 21:22
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velocitygir1 · 13/09/2017 21:22

Sending you love, prayers and healing thoughts for you and your son.

My daughter is 13 and has a history of self harm as do I from the age of 11 (I tried to commit suicide 6 times in 7 years) I'm 37 now so he can get through this.

All you can do is continue to be the rock for him and show him you love him-as you always have.

Love and hugs.

littlebird7 · 13/09/2017 21:23

If it is any consolation my bf attempted suicide when she was young, it was traumatic but exposed how much help and support and care she needed. Everyone around her understood that things had to change for her, light was shone on the difficulties she had been carrying. She went from strength to strength after this, and has never looked back, she is now a successful business woman, married with two children and a wonderful life. Keep the faith.

Graceflorrick · 13/09/2017 21:25

Thinking of you OP. Flowers

rupertpenryswife · 13/09/2017 21:32

My heart goes out to you and your son, I'm sure he knows you are there. You will hopefully get some support to help him deal with whatever has made him feel this way. Sending lots of hugs and good wishes.

PacificDogwod · 13/09/2017 21:35

Poor him, and poor you Thanks

Hope you are getting some sleep tonight.
When you are with him, speak to him and touch him.
Strength and light being sent your way.

Chilver · 13/09/2017 21:36

Sending love and strength to you and your family. I have no knowledge or experience to help you; I'm sure others here can though. You have my empathy though xxx

Karmagician · 13/09/2017 21:36

OP just wanted to hold your hand a bit as this sounds just horrible for you all. It might be worth a call to the Samaritans for you to just be able to offload all that you are feeling. The 'problem' is that all the focus will be on your son for now, which is of course how it should be, but I can't begin to imagine the mixture of emotions you will be feeling right now, and I suspect you will feel selfish talking about that to friends and family. YOu absolutely need some support too. You could also ask at the PICU if they are aware of any parent 'support group' or other resources you may be able to access. Good luck and sending you both a virtual hug.

ChocolatePHD · 13/09/2017 21:44

OP I hope your boy is getting better. I'm so so sad to read this. I have a long mental health history myself so I can relate to what you're going through. Keep talking to us and take everything a minute at a time. Sending you much love and support.

LaughingElliot · 14/09/2017 08:47

How are you today?

0ccamsRazor · 14/09/2017 08:59

Thinking of you and your ds Op, Flowers

TurquoiseChevrotain · 15/09/2017 12:48

How are you/is he? Flowers

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