Can't cope with my ASD child

[nat2587]

Hi this is the 1st time I've post on here I really can't cope with my 9year old son who has ASD,learning difficulties and behaviour problems.i don't know what to do any more his behaviour is worse than ever he is very violent 2words me and his older brother when he has a melt down tell me to go and he hates me I love him to bits I just want to help him he doesn't even want to go out and about any more he just wants to stay in all the time and play his Xbox i do try so had to say NO!! Xbox And stick to it but i end up giving in because he becomes violet 2words me and he is starting to reply hurt me bruising me I do time him on it but there r some days where I don't just so is an easier day as I have 2 young children to look after aswell

You poor thing! This sounds terrible. Be strong! Disable the Xbox and say it is broken and then remove it altogether. Too many computer games are bad for children and encourage violence.
Just get rid of it.
Be strong! You are the grown-up and he deserves this from you.

My Dd13 has ASD and DS11 has stress and anxiety. I just let them play or watch YouTube as much as they want. They both switch it off and do other things when they want and no violent outbursts. Life outside the home is so hard home should be safe and relaxing.

You may find his xbox is what he does to wind down and removing it will make life a lot worse! DS uses his computer to calm down and feel in control. I encourage him to do other things and he does quite a lot but he loves his pc. He does do quite a lot of educational stuff like programming. Would your DS be interested in something like that? Rather than just games on the xbox?

Do you have any help from CAMHS regarding his violent behaviour?

My son has ads and watches you tube a lot but if I were to stop him he would be stressed up which means I would be stressed up, the whole house would be a mess, I have to give advance warning about going out and he comes sometimes with a big moan, he also builds models and isn’t social so to ban what he loves is counter active, these are not children who you can punish in these ways, I’ve just started with cahms and they were good, he struggled terribly with SATS and moving home threats to self harm and refusing school we came to blows, I just restrained him properly while he kicked and punched me, luckily I do a lot of weight training and so I’m still stronger than him xx keep going and don’t take the violence xx

Similar here op, it's really hard
I'm waiting for an appointment to go back to paediatrician to see if there's any help they can offer. I've also joined ASD local support groups, is there any in your area you can reach out to?