dd is nearly 15.
she suffers with anxiety, low self esteem and has been self harming. she has had counselling for almost a year. i have been desperately worried about her and support her in every way that i can think of.
however, her roller coaster of emotions is impacting massively on the whole family and i feel totally burnt out with dealing with the situation. i have been repeatedly ill over the last 7 weeks, to the point that if i catch one more thing i will be seeing the GP to ask for a blood test. i feel that the impact of managing dd is a key factor in me being so run down.
dd has sooo much going for her in terms of her talents and attributes, but her self esteem is just through the floor. she has such a fixed, negative view of herself in all areas from academics, to body image. you name it. She won't pursue any of her interests e.g. acting and dance due to low confidence and fear of being judged.
she has been referred to a arts based support group for teens that is nurturing in just the way that i think she needs, but she doesn't want to go, of course.
obviously the rational side of me knows that bribery and coercion is wrong, but another side of me wants to scream at her 'how about you try to do something to help yourself and actually make some changes?!' (rather than just expecting the rest of the family to live with the fall out of your emotional roller coaster).
any advice, pleased?